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writes:Its been almost a year since I broke up with my ex-boyfriend and all the sudden he's started calling and texting me again. We were together for 4 years, which were a mixture of good times and bad. The reason we broke up was because he cheated on me and out right admitted to it and acted like nothing was wrong with it when I confronted him about it. I haven't responded to any of his attempts to contact me yet, but in his texts hes apologized and told me he realizes now that he messed up something good. He even talked to my mom, apologized to her for what he did. I really want to give him another chance, but when we broke up I told him I would never want another chance with him and that we should both go our separate ways. And after he treated me the way he did and did the things he did to me and out right humiliated me I don't want to take him back or even think about him. But the part of me that wants to take him back remembers how it felt to be in a relationship with him... I wanna know if I should take him back and try and make things work. He says hes changed and has realized what he's done. but part of me wants to believe that he's only saying that because he's alone and has no one and the other part wants to believe he's changed since it's been a year since Ive talked to him. I don't know what to do...please help!
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reader, lov advice seeker for teens n young  +, writes (16 April 2010):
 mostly dont keep trust in such a person only 9 percent of such people change
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reader, Cheeks +, writes (2 March 2010):
 No I would say. I can imagine you might be thinking "he's had his fill of fooling around by now & we can start over again because he'll be content with just me." But this dude cheated on you before- I dont know if you dumped him over it but he knows he didnt screw up enough to lose you completely if you're still talking to him. And who knows what he's been up to this whole time he was gone. He could even be cheating on some other girl with you. Who knows but it really gives the impression to a dude that he's got you hooked, like you'll always be in love with him even if he screws you over. Because "you;ve been waiting for him this whole time". Screw that guy- make him your booty call if want him around but try not to become attatched. He'll just break your heart again because he'll thinks your whooped. If I were you that last thing I would let him think is that he means so much to me- where you were on his list when he cheated on last year? Good luck and I really hope he's not duping you, telling you sweet nothings that are probably just that, B.S. And you just decide to have the upper hand & stay in charge of your heart. You know he's a liar & a cheat. Again, good luck.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (2 March 2010):
 "remembers how it felt to be in a relationship with him"
Really? The pain when you found out? Do you remember that?
Okay, so he claims he has changed. And I claim I am the emperor of China. Words are cheap. What has he done to proof it?
Forsaken all other women, for the last year? No? Then he didn't seem to have missed you all the much, has he?
Simple things like that. Actions. Not words.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 March 2010):
He's come back awfully quickly. I'd say you're a young woman, and have time to find a better guy.
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