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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ok so I have been working at my job for 2 years now and so has my coworker. When we first started working there and started to get to know each other our relationship was pretty good. She would even invite me to hang out with her outside of work. As time progressed and we started getting new workers, I felt like she had began to distanced herself from me. At that point she would only talk to me if I initiated conversation, a work related question or to tell me about a personal accomplishment. Also she would ask me questions about my personal life at the most random times and she even sent me a friend request on facebook which I thought was kind of weird because we hardly talked at work. So recently I had my schedule changed for the summer which involved me working with her more and the next week she goes on an long vacation. Now that she's back we have only said hey/good morning to each other and its like she's keeping her distance from me. If I am on one side of the building she's on the other and if I am in the front she is in the back. I don't know what her problem is with me because I have never done anything to her and I get along great with my other co workers because I am a easy going, fun person to be around. I am also considered one of the best hard workers at my job and I also get numerous compliments from customers because I am a attractive young woman and i have great fashion sense. Maybe these could be reasons for her behavior but I just don't know.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 August 2012):
 Maybe she feels like you two don't have a lot in common? Maybe she felt like SHE put in most of the work to try and make friends with you?
It is really hard to say why some people act the way they do.
Does it really matter? Obviously she isn't what you consider a friend or you would have added her to FB.
Be polite, nice and professional. You do NOT have to be friends with all the people you work with.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (24 August 2012):
 I think it's really telling that you think she's avoiding you due to jealousy. Perhaps you really aren't as nice as you think you are, if that's really what you think.
No one is obligated to be your friend. No one is obligated to socialize with you outside or even inside of work. And no one is obligated to tell you WHY they don't want to be friends with you.
Instead of allowing your ego to get in the way of logic, you should accept the fact that she simply does not want to be friends with you.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (24 August 2012):
 sounds like you two just don't have that much to say to each other anymore aside from work. maybe she's just uncomfortable with not having much to say so she's avoiding you. you can change it if you want, and ask her out to a movie or something. or you could be more straightforward and ask if she's feeling ok and when she says she is/isn't explain that you feel the relationship is strained between you two and you wanted to know if there's something you've done or can do to fix it.
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