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writes:Hi everyone.. I am very depressed these days. I m going to discuss it rite now and would like your help. I had a huge crush on a girl when I was in 11th standard. But was very shy to approach to her and tell her how much I felt about her. I always talked about books n classes but never got personal. After two years when school was over I moved to other state and joined my college she two did the same which naturall. Broke our contact... After some years I saw her on facebook and talked with her casuallyand said her how much I felt about her to which she didn't responded. She didn't talked with me no matter how many msgs I sended... So I thought I was just making her irritated I decided to remove her. And tried ro forget. After a year she made a fake i.d and talked but I knew it was her the way she texted and ol. She finally said do u have a girlfriend? To which I said no. And she said y.. To which I gave the reason tjat I still love that gal... She said that might be she didn't wamtdd relationship at that tym. So u should semd her the request.. I searched her name and found that she had unblocked me.. N I thought it might be like she wud be willing to talk to me... For one month we chated so well n then I finally asked her about the no. To which she replied that she wud surely give it to me.. But finally blocked me..i still don't understand if she wanted nothing from me y she jad to motivste me tjrough fake id and advice me to give her tym n be optimistic n y did she block me? What does she really want.its just making me depressed. Sorry about the weak english
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reader, Hnk  +, writes (2 September 2014):
 That was all part of the game !
She wanted you to believe that she likes you and really wants to be with you so she could hurt you! Seems like her plan worked but trust me you'd find a lot of girls who'd actually like you for who you are!
Good luck and keep strong !
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reader, illusion angel +, writes (2 September 2014):
illusion angel is verified as being by the original poster of the questionY then she had to say through her fake i.d that you need to give her tym? Y she had go say may be she likes you too but is confused right now. Y she had to say that you should be patient.? She was giving me every hint from her fake i.d that she wanted tym, then y she had to block me through her original i.d. It looks so confusing. However thank you for your advice. I vl try to move on!
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reader, Hnk +, writes (2 September 2014):
You blocked her and removed her, that was taken personal because of her ego issues!
She took time to get even with you by blocking you afterwards!
It was all ego game done in rage!
Move on, not worth it at all!
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2014): Hi there I know that this situation is painful and confusing because it is hard to know why she has done such things. However, sometimes the way we think about a person is not what they are really like. We have an idea in our mind of them that doesn't fit in reality. In this idea, we place all our expectations, without realizing that we are chasing a ghost that doesn't really exist. This girl knows that you like her and she is toying with your emotions. It is not right. I would break all contact and stop trying to understand her. It is not worth the pain and you deserve better. Meet other girls to take your mind off this one. This will also help you gain some distance from the situation so that you can see it clearer. You'll see that you don't need such interactions that only bring confusion and upset. All the best. xx
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (2 September 2014):
 Illusion angel...you've given yourself the right name. It was an illusion indeed and she was just toying with you. Why did she do it? God knows. But the good thing in this entire episode is that if a girl is mean enough to play these tricks with you then you know that this girl is NEVER worth your time. Would you even want to be with such a person?
I agree with with WiseowlE, this obsession of yours isnt healthy. There are plenty of decent girls out there who would be much better for you. Why waste your time on an illusion? You have a mental picture of her in which she's probably perfect and that is who you are in love with. You dont even know the real girl enough to even like her! The trouble was that the mental image that you had of her never aligned with the real person that she actually was.
You will get over it OP and you shouldn't even try to think about why she did what she did. She's not worth it. Seriously, just move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2014): Either she's playing cruel games with you, or it could be somebody else who knows how much you like her toying with you.
You may need psychological counseling. You shouldn't be so deeply effected emotionally by someone you're not even in a real relationship with. Carrying strong feelings for her so long like you are, isn't healthy for you. It's an infatuation that is making you depressed, and that's not the kind of reaction you should be having. You are border-lining on obsession; and you really need to speak to a mental-health professional to help you deal with this issue, and how it is affecting you.
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