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writes: is kissing my cousin ok? I mean she beautiful we both have feelings and we had sex is that ok?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008): you all really dont understnad that this will affect your future with any other woman you might want to be with. do you realize that this is something that people find out, and certainly hate you for? i cought my ex cheating on me with his cousin, he finally fell in love with me and i didnt take him back i printed allhis converstions and sent them to his family i was angry and no one diserves to be put through this. also be careful please, dont hurt your future, and stop talking to her becuase when you wnna fall in love for the real 1st time its gonna be something that will haunt you
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2007): I will answer since I am not seen.
1 afternoon while at my house watching TV, and my cousin (she is early 30's) was there. We were just drinking a lil bit and something said made me a lil hard-on. Well she noticed this and laughed and said I musta been needing something. I joked back and said I knew I was showing and it was obvious. She still looked and about an hour later jokingly said she might let me have some. Well I jokingly replied I would take it. Then we quit smiling, she told me we have to keep it secret, I knew that.
Well we got away from the crowd at the house and I never knew she was really serious, she was and slide her pants down, i touched her and My Gawd was she Wet. Then since we were not at a suitable spot she slide her panties down around her ankles and bent over. Oh Yes I was Hard then,,, next I knew we were fuxxing like Rabbits. The next time we saw each other we were both quiet, then I mentioned what we had done, and she told me to just keep it to myself. Well later that same day we were at it again, and since then we get busy many times. I think we always wanted to do this, but never had the nerves. She and I both keep it a secret and we are in our 50's now and have been Sexing for over 20 years. Just be careful and don't let anyone know .
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2007): Personaly I think it is perfectly normal.
If u really do love a woman, don't care what the world has to say about it.
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reader, blackrosesoxoxox  +, writes (1 August 2007):
 well my great grandpa and great grandma were cousins nothing wrong with my family and thay were married for 76 years
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2007): If you're both adults and understand eachother and what you want from the relationship then why not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2007): well one time i walked on my cousin masturbating with her dildo and she was fantasizing about me saying yes,give it to me,faster,harder
then the next day she was on top off me (naked)
then she frenched me and then ive felt so dirty for allowing that
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2007): i have been in a year long relationship with my second cousin. everything is fine we are now thinking of having a baby together. as long as your both happy nothing else matters
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2007):
In section 27 of the act is states it is unlawful to have a "sexual relationship" with a cousin who has at sometime lived in the same household. I would guess this means any sexual contact is an offence.
I don't think the argument is to protect the "gene pool" but rather that any sexual contact is harmful to one or both of the people involved. I guess this is directed at protecting children more than anything else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2007):
In section 27 of the act is states it is unlawful to have a "sexual relationship" with a cousin who has at sometime lived in the same household. I would guess this means any sexual contact is an offence.
I don't think the argument is to protect the "gene pool" but rather that any sexual contact is harmful to one or both of the people involved. I guess this is directed at protecting children more than anything else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2007): The Sexual Offences Act 2003 (UK) makes penetrative sex between related adults a criminal offence regardless of consent. This includes cousins (no degree of consanguinity is actually stated, i.e. first, second, first cousin once removed, etc) if they are living in, or have lived in the same household as part of the wider family. I guess this is ambiguous as it does not make it clear if cousins engaging in heterosexual or homosexual sex who have never lived together are committing a crime or not. A question though - should gay sex between cousins be outlawed if there is no risk to the "gene pool"?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2007): Well I dont think its all that bad, if the parents were to find out then yea it would cos upset but come on how many of us tell our parents about our sex life anyway, If both parties have discussed and enjoy each others company then were is the harm, if you are both adults and mature then you can have fun. As long as it the same thinking on both sides then really my advice have some harmless fun, but note make sure that your cousin is not in love with you if you are only fooling around, cos if it was to end badly then the family might wonder why, Go for it if no-one gets hurt
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2007): ok,in my opinion it is ok to have sex with your cousin,of course it is,I'm german and here it is allowed to have sex,get children and marry the cousin.I love my cousin we have a relationchip and that for so long I love him more than everything or everybody else on this world and if you love your cousin you should stay together if not be happy to have sex with somebody you like.you can't choose the person you love,just be happy to feel love
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2007): In my opinion, incest is wrong yet it isn't. What I mean to say is that I think that if it isn't lust but love then it's ok. Sadly most of the time it is lust or at least for how many people I have talked to about it, it's just been lust.
Think of it this way, if you and your cousin were the only people on earth left, do you think the dead people would want you to just sit around and die, not trying to save the population. Now I am speaking "hypothetically" but you get my point.
Many other people would say that i'm a sick person who even thinking such a thing about incest and what you do is right or ok. If it's love, then in my opinion, enjoy yourself, be happy but I still don't like incest people having kids of there own. Like a bet some of the other people have said "it can cause somewhat of "troubles" in your children's life. LIke disabilities and all that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2007): Wow, so many people have such clear definitions of right and wrong, lucky you! I bet you never have any difficult choices to make in life, living in black and white must be superb!
WW and martini give the only answers worth reading, the rest of you should do a little bit of research in to relationships between cousins because you are clearly utterly ignorant of any facts whatsoever.
I'm guessing most replies come from people who, a couple of generations ago thought it was also morally right to hang black people, those sub-human animals that they were. Try seeing the world through something larger than your own eyes, or if you are one of those religious folk, do a bit of research in to the history of the church, how it came to "hold" these views and then a quick introduction to genetics. You'd be surprised.
Without evidence to make up your claims you sound like a vigilante mob parading around a town looking for the first person who looks different to lynch. Perhaps you guys should move to an Islamic state and renounce your western values. You'd fit in much easier having the freedom to terrorise and murder those you think are "incestourous", "wrong-doers", "abused", "tragic", "sooo wrong", "gross", and "need councelling"
I'm glad I don't post questions on here.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (3 January 2007):
 What is it with people on here. It is not incestuous to have relationships with a cousin first or otherwise. PLEASE people get your facts straight before posting. Take care when offering opinions on stuff you find 'disgusting', this is people's life choices you are disparaging.
I find it disgusting that so many people are so rude and closed minded. FACT throughout Europe, Canada and Mexico there is no problem to first cousins marrying. Of course there is a bit of a knee jerk reaction in the USA with it prohibited in 24 (I think) states and stipulations on genetic screening in others....but hey, thats the USA. This is the country that used to allow 14 year olds to marry....sorry still does in some states (I just googled it before you all come back and give me big time grief!)
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reader, willywombat +, writes (3 January 2007):
What is it with people on here. It is not incestuous to have relationships with a cousin first or otherwise. PLEASE people get your facts straight before posting. Take care when offering opinions on stuff you find 'disgusting', this is people's life choices you are disparaging.
I find it disgusting that so many people are so rude and closed minded. FACT throughout Europe, Canada and Mexico there is no problem to first cousins marrying. Of course there is a bit of a knee jerk reaction in the USA with it prohibited in 24 (I think) states and stipulations on genetic screening in others....but hey, thats the USA. This is the country that used to allow 14 year olds to marry....sorry still does in some states (I just googled it before you all come back and give me big time grief!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2007): ok. I know it's pretty wrong, but i have had sex with my cousin a number of times, and even though we're 5th cousins, and only by marriage it's still... scary once you think about it. i mean, i know everyone else has said it also, but you're parents would FREAK. and her's no doubt if they even found out at all, think about a child. a baby, are you even ready for that yourself? not even just the whole parents/family arguement, having a child at all, don't take the risk unless you want the consequences. but if you are willing to take all of this, and even your peer's pressure, go ahead. i'm serious, don't let stupid people get you down. do what you both think is right. and if that's doing whatever, do it. just think about it ok?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2006): i believe if the world condones alternative sex (gay,lesbian), you should be allowed, i married my first cousin and have a beautiful child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2006): Although I know it's wrong, i'm deeply attracted to my cousin and often fantasize us having sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2006): i married my childhood sweetheart and we have live happily and modestly in wales on a farm. we have two children molly and brodie who are healthy and normal so i guess this cousin love worked out well. no defects just a happy lovely life. growing up together made our marital bond stronger and the first time we made love it was excitng and a real rush and the fear of getting caught made us just come harder
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2006): I do not think it is right either, you should seriously think about it first long and hard.
When I was really drunk, my cousin and I fooled around a bit ( same age, about 16 ) and it was nothing but it's still not right.
When I say fooled around I mean just experimenting and whatever, like she would 'grab mine' and I would grab her boobs.
We were both really really really drunk.
I think that having sex with cousins is WAY WAY WAY past the boundaries of normal teenagers and people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2006): ok no that is so not ok! infact it's disgusting...
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2006): Are you part of the Royal family?
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reader, Learning2Love +, writes (1 December 2006):
 I'm not even going to touch on society's perceptions and moral issues.
Your cousin, especially first degree (ie. Your mom/dad and her mom/dad have the same 2 parents), and are the genetic or blood equivalent of a half-sister. If that doesn't blow your hair back then nothing anyone says here will.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2006): I agree with the other aunts, I can not condone that sort of behaviour. But if youre looking for an answer as to whether you could get into trouble over this, then I dont think it is illegal in the UK anyway. But that doesnt make it right mate!.
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reader, Dr. Reality Check +, writes (1 December 2006):
 If you ask the question, you must already know it's wrong. This could lead to serious complications, both emotionally, and physically as she could get pregnant. Imagine how your family would react, and there could also be defects to the child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2006): Well, it is totally wronge for you to have sex with you counsin no matter what the situation, because having sex with you counsin is not even the problem but the implications in it in the near future. So I will say to you that it is not okay for you having sex with your counsin. Think this will help you to change your mind from that can of attituded.Best of luck
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reader, yummytastycandy8 +, writes (1 December 2006):
ummm buddy this is wrong in sooo many ways ...this is ur family not a friend... what would ur parents think? i mean its gross u dont have sex with yuor causins .. its wrong in so MANY ways... i think u guys need to stay the hell away from eachother and seek conciling...if u have a baby it will be apretty messed up baby even if she gets an abortin than your parents will find out and they will probley not understand and than disown you....so think of your future and just say hey listen this is wrong!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2006): That really depends on who you're asking and how you see that yourself. Cousins, especially first cousins are the next closest to your blood aside from your children, parents, and siblings. So if you have sex for the sake of creating offspring, then it's not a good idea. If you have sex for the sake of pleasure, well, that like I said, depends on society and how you accept that society.
In some cultures, this is acceptable, so long as you don't get married and have children. However, as William Saletan stated in his article, "You can't just say the practice in question is icky. You have to state a principle and think through its implications. Often, you have to change your opinions on related issues in order to honor that principle, or you have to throw out the principle and change your mind about the original question."
The link, if you care to read it, is here:
http://www.slate.com/id/2064227/
Mr. Saletan makes some great perspectives on this issue. I neither agree nor disagree, but I can see from all sides why it is considered wrong and why some consider it not.
So with that said, I'm sure I will be attacked for not supporting and not-not supporting this issue. This is something you have to check with your state-law if you fear legality issues. Otherwise, if you're just worried about how others see you two, well, this is always a gray area.
You do what you want to do, so long as no harm comes from it. If you want to make babies with her, consider that there is a percent chance your children will come out not quite right. Mind you, if the article's 'facts' are true, that percentage isn't very high. Nevertheless, if you ask your common society whether it is wrong or not, I will tell you that most people will tell you it is, and they no doubtly base this on the idea of blood-relation. Is it enough to justify that? Possibly.
What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2006): Please seek the help of a family therapist, I think there must be some kind of abuse going on in your family for you to go through with this kind of incestuous behavior....yes, of course this is not OK for the two of you to be doing this....you are not in love with eachother, you are blood relatives, you are just horney and acting out some deeper issues on top of it...get help, soon, as this could lead to tragedy for your cousin and yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2006): Having an incestual relationship is not good- agreeing with another respondant- if she did get pregnant genetic mutations would most likely happen- down syndrom is not uncommon. Think twice about this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2006): From what I've read, the gene pool is so great that first cousins that mate will not have children with a higher incidence of birth defects than anybody else (take this with a grain of salt). None the less, in western civilization, sex between cousins is considered taboo. In other cultures, this may be acceptable behavior.
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reader, laura ann +, writes (1 December 2006):
 Nooooooooo
I'm sure you had some idea that this would be wrong. Any contact like what you say with a blood relative no matter how far down the line is wrong, you can not do it. If your cousin was to be come pregnant it would be a downsindrome{sp{ i hope this will help
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reader, whitetie +, writes (1 December 2006):
Sorry Dude.That is wrong. Many people have incestuous feeling. You are probably going through a rough patch in your life. These sexual encounters must stop as they can lead to future complications later in life!!!!!!
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