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*nelife2live
writes:I am a single mother of two children. The father of my children abandoned us with nothing. No food, no money, and no secure shelter. When my children's father brother found out about the situation he provided us food and shelter. In this process we fell in love. Is it wrong for us to love one another? My children's father and I we never married and to this day, he still does nothing for his children. He doesn't even call and check on them. We want to be together but I'm concerned about what our families will think and what best for my children. What should I do?
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reader, No watered down advice here! +, writes (22 December 2010):
 Do what’s BEST for You and Your KIDS! Where was the FAMILY when the father left you w/o food and no secure shelter,with 2 kids? ijs! I agree with CaringGuy,Kids aren't stupid. Trust me the kids already know! It’s about when are you going to sit them down and tell them? I think you deserve to happy! I'm happy for you!
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reader, onelife2live +, writes (16 December 2010):
onelife2live is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you all so much. We feel the same way. I am learning that you only get one life and I want to be happy. Again, thanks.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (16 December 2010):
On this occasion, I'd agree with everyone else. This guy has come and proved his worth, taken on your children and given you care, love, shelter and a life. He seems like a decent guy and a good role model for your kids.
As for your kids, clearly one day they'll have some questions about their father. And I think you can afford to be honest. Explain that their father walked out and has never been in contact, and that their Uncle came and helped and you just fell in love. Kids aren't stupid, and hopefully they'll understand.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (16 December 2010):
 What could be better for your children than to be provided for and to be loved and sheltered? You are free to love whomever you choose and nothing anyone else says should matter.
I hope that helps.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (16 December 2010):
 He forfeits the right to get upset by leaving and having nothing to do with you or your kids.
Go for it, to hell with what anyone else thinks.
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