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writes:I can't get my brothers friend out of my head! wot can i do? my brother is really protective over me, plus i've already been out with one of his friends and it got serious so their friendship suffered and i don't think he would want that to happen again.a lot of my brothers friends fancy me and i have given some of them my number and it has really annoyed him, but this guy is so different because its me that fancies him! somebody plz tell me wot i should do!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (11 April 2007):
 I had no problems at all when my sister dated my friends. She was four years younger than me, but knew the score pretty well and my buddies knew that they had BETTER play the game by her rules (whatever they were ... I never asked her) or else. I was able to steer her away from one guy who I knew was just too sleazy for her (and I told her WHY, in detail, and she agreed she didn't really want to go out with a guy like that) but otherwise who she dated was pretty much up to her and to the guy in question.
By all means, get to know the guy you want to date, just as you would any other guy.
And have a talk with your brother. Find out if there is some legitimate reason WHY he doesn't want you to date this specific person. If he's just being protective, make it clear to him that you can handle yourself with guys, and if you need any help you'll let him know, thank you very much. Be sure he knows that while you appreciate him being there for you, you do NOT intend to live your life in his shadow.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (11 April 2007):
 Speaking a brother myself. I would ask him first, if you could date his friend. But Like Penta said you will only have one brother and more crushes to come in your lifetime.
To tell the truth i would have a problem if my sister dated one of my friends, so i understand his problems.
But if you really do like this boy i would just ask him first for his permission as they are his friends. His answer will just have to come.
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reader, penta +, writes (11 April 2007):
 Talk to your brother about this. Find out why he had such a problem last time. Talk to him about the friend you fancy. If you can get your brother on board first, maybe he can relax about it. He might even be able to help.
If he can't get past it, I wouldn't date his friend. He's family, and you'll have plenty of boyfriends before you find the right one. You won't have another brother.
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reader, PoSiOnKiSS +, writes (11 April 2007):
 you should find out if hes got a girlfriend, and most importantly if he has any interest in you. and i dont mean just blatantly ask him, get to know him to see what hes really like, you neva know you might be disappointed. but if hes already got a gf or doesnt feel the same was as you do him then i think you should best keep out of this one, for the guys friendship.
hope this helps x
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