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writes:Hey guys, I have a problem that I'm coping with and I would appreciate it if you could help! Recently I hooked up with a boy from my team sport. He's fifteen, I'm sixteen, despite the age on my account. Anyway, I'm really into him and he's extremely into me. The thing is, he's been hiding things from me a lot. He has an issue with drugs, and he frequently harms or kills animals. He attempted to kill a person, and that ended up with a few weeks in juvi and rehab. I'm becoming almost afraid of him, yet I still love him a lot, despite his psycho attitude. He's not mean to me; in fact, he's a different person around me. It's his friends that revv him up. Please help me, I don't know how to handle him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionEveryone who wrote back thank you so, so much! I will consider everything. i just felt like he pushed me into this confined area with no meanings of escape. I appreciate everything!
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reader, annder +, writes (1 June 2010):
hi, honey you need to break it off and move on he needs help and that is something he needs to do on his own you can't change him. Let him find himself and get help he needs to work on himself before he can comprehend what love is, You can't love another until you learn to love yourself, he doesn't love himself and he needs to find help and you can't truely love him if you allow your self to stay in this relationship. Get out before it's too late!!!
I have to agree with caring guy, fem anon and Accountable
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (1 June 2010):
 Lol yeah he sounds like a real cock head you know when you watch a movie and you see one of those weird loosers that the audience dosent like? well that's pretty much him. He's not your true hero.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2010): Hi I'm studying criminology and this is one of the tracks that a murderer can go through at a young age,
1) they hurt themselves and verbally abuse people because they have a dependancy, this can be on anything eg adreneline, attention, alchohol and drugs
2) they begin to hurt things they consider weaker than themselves (the animals)
3) they begin to hurt humans, they normally end up killing.
Seem as he didn't sucres in completing stage 3 he is going to try and hurt things that he considers weaker, with you being a girl who is younger tht could be you.
If you get him put away I can guarentee you later in life he will benifit and once he is off drugs he will forgive you. The worry is you grass him in and he gets a youth offender community service... He might get this because there are various drug rehab courses for those aged between 16-18
Another thing, now you know you can help may I suggest you should protect yourself and others, how will you feel if he kills someone and you could have stopped it??
I hope you do the right thing
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reader, Accountable  +, writes (1 June 2010):
 Harming animals is one of the most obvious signs of psychopathy, and I am not trying to scare you but if you look at the profile of any serial killer, harming animals is one of the earliest visible behaviours of abnormality. The fact he actually attempted to kill a person just reinforces this, surely? And just because he is different around you, does not mean that is the "real him" - psychopaths usually have no connections to emotions, but are very good at imitating them. My guess is he's a pathological liar who is very good at looking like he's into you.
There is nothing you alone can do to help him. You're only 16 - you will find love, but not with this guy. Caringguy and the fem anon are completely right - if you stay with him, you are putting yourself at serious risk of being abused or even killed. Please end it, and find somebody more stable, who can give you the love and safety you deserve. Not a single question posted to dearcupid has made me worry about the safety of a poster like this one has.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2010): Like CaringGuy said, he's a psycho, and right on track to be a serial killer (no kidding, either.) Most serial killers are mentally abnormal, and start of abusing and killing animals...his attempt to kill a person already shows that. Do some research if you don't believe me. Get away from this psycho, and get away from him far, far away.
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reader, Lucky786 +, writes (1 June 2010):
 A lot of serial killers started out killing and torturing animals as youngsters before moving onto human prey. This relationship is so unhealthy for you, you need to get away from him now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2010): What a nutter, how can you love someone who has basically processed himself to be a killer, if it starts off with animals I can guarentee it will end with a human he kills (I study criminology @uni and this is like a time bomb trust me)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2010): Get out as soon as possible. Just because he hasn't harmed you doesn't mean he will. If he's willing to do what you say he is it wont matter how much he loves you it's how his brain is programmed. You can't help him. Get out before you get hurt. You're one sixteen.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 June 2010):
Sweetie, he's a psychopath. End it, before you end up like one of the animals he kills. There is no changing him. There is no making him better. And you don't want to end up dead, which is a serious possibility with a man like this.
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