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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I know my partner loves me and he is always saying how he can't wait to marry me BUT there is something in my mind that makes me feel 2nd best to his ex.When they split we were just friends and it got nasty between them, one night he found out about her seeing someone else and she claims that he said that he loved her so much and could never love someone that much, this was all written in a statement that went to court.He says he hates her which it does appear that he does as they can't even speak to each other with regards to the children SO why do i feel this way.She is thinner than me and she is pretty, she is different to me, we are not alike at all which makes me wonder why is he with me.I look at him and he is not like my ex, he is a little chubbier etc etc but i don't care i love him for him and who he is and i keep telling myself that he will think the same but for women the weight thing is always an issue. She is a UK size 8-10 and i am a 14 she is dark haired and i am blonde.All i do is ask myself why does he love me? She got married this weekend and i don't want him to see any pictures in the internet etc as i don't want him to see her in her dress as i am worried what he will think.I am crazy i guess!
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reader, raiders  +, writes (1 June 2010):
 Worry about your relationship and let the past go. He is with you and that is all that should matter to you. Be happy and don't let the shadow of his past interferer with your future and your love for him.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 June 2010):
Not crazy. But carry on this way and you will be. He's with you because he loves you. So what if she's a size 8-10. They still broke up. So what if she's different? Of course she is. Why would he want another one like her? He wouldn't. That would be like walking back into the fire. So quit comparing yourself. He loves you.
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