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writes: Hi!Well I have a really bad problem.well my boyfriend is really sweet and everything and I do luv him but the other day we were snogging like we always do and he tried 2 go a little further and I didn't want 2 go further he tried undressing me and he was touching me in places I really didn't want 2 b touched!It made me feel really uncomfortable wat should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, jacquelina  +, writes (26 April 2007):
at your age, you may need to realize that snuggling, kissing being in areas that are completley private is where it will all start, reguardless, you might want to question what he say's his feelings are, tell him respect comes before sex.!! just tell him because of what happened you have to take away some snuggle time to feel more secure that you dont jump into a bad decision because you are in the heat of a moment that will end in five minutes
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2007): Dont let him pressurise you into doing things you dont want to do.. or dont feel like your ready to do.. your the one in control just tell him 'No' n if he dont listen then he aint respecting you and u need to move on! If he feels for you though, he will understand and wait til your ready.. i hope this helps..!!
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reader, rk06  +, writes (18 April 2007):
 Tell him it bothers you. your decision to not allow sexual contact at your age is such a precious decision. Keep it up :)
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reader, penta +, writes (17 April 2007):
 Okay, remember this saying: "My body, my rules." Don't ever let anyone do anything to you that you're not comfortable with. If he can't play by your body rules, then he's not worth keeping.
If you let him go further than you want, you'll never know whether he's in the relationship because (1) he likes you or (2) he likes what you let him do with you. You want to wait for the #1 kinda guy.
You'll know when you're ready. And if your bf doesn't get it, get rid of him.
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reader, LoVe_Is_ReAlxxx  +, writes (17 April 2007):
 hi. this is simple!!! you tell him no! no body should feel pressurised into doing anything they dont feel is right. if this guy really respected you then he would not have a problem with you saying no. your feelings are just as important as his and he should understand that. if he loves you he will wait until you feel comfortable with what he is doing!!!! never let anyone take advantage of you!
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (17 April 2007):
 Tell your boyfriend to slow down as you are not comfortable with things moving so fast.
If he is not happy with this, he is not worth keeping.
It is your call, you should have as much control over this relationship as he does.
Do not let anyone push you into what you are not ready yet.
No matter how sweet they are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2007): Even if you were in a boyfriend/girlfriend situation- what he is doing could still be consituted as rape. Make sure that you push him away. If he really loved you, he probalby woudlnt be pressuring you. Be wise, if he realy did care he would wait til you were comfortable.hope this helps- stay strong!
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reader, Dr. Mark +, writes (17 April 2007):
Remind him that "No means No". Your body is your own, and it is up to you to decide what to do with it, and who can touch you. It can be very difficult when you are pressured. If anyone makes you feel pressured, whether it's about sex or anything else, you need to tell them to stop, and remove yourself from them. Ultimately, it doesn't matter when the "normal" age is. Even if you were way over that normal age, it would still be up to you. Sex is only ok if both people are consenting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2007): You set the pace and decide when you are ready to take things further -no one else.You must tell him this straight. If he wont accept then Im afraid he dusnt respect your feelings and as you are so young it would be time to get rid.You have plenty of time and there are plenty of guys so dont get wrapped up in this one and give what you dont wish to. If he is the one for you he will wait and go at your pace.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (17 April 2007):
 Never, under any circumstances, let anyone do anything to you that you don't want them to. It's your body and you should be able to tell him NO and STOP if it doesn't feel right. He will have to be patient and wait for you, whenever you decide that you feel comfortable with the next step. You are still quite young and there is no need to feel rushed. If your boyfriend ever tries to force you to do something against your will, get up and leave. There is a thing called "date rape" and it is called that because it happens with somone that you know. He should never make you feel frightened or worried about your safety. If he has made you feel that way, it's not a good idea to be alone with him again. (Please understand, I'm not saying your boyfriend was like this, I'm giving you possibilities of what could go wrong.) You'll know when you are comfortable and ready to get closer, it will feel "right". When you are ready, make sure you are safe (condom + one other form of birth control) so that you can relax and not worry. And Again, take your time, you are young and the average age for girls to begin engaging in sex is around 18 (no matter what your boyfriend and friends say). Take Care.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (17 April 2007):
 Tell him you're not comfortable with it. Maybe he thinks its what you want. You need to communicate with guys. Some of them dnt have a clue!
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (17 April 2007):
 If he cannot take the subtle hint, you may need to be a bit more forceful. Tell him gentlely, but firmly, no that you dont want to be touched there yet. You are not ready for that and he is making you unconfortable. If he really cares about you and respects you he will understand and back off. A teen boys hormones are out of control and he may want more, but a loving boyfriend will happily accept less.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2007): In situations where you do not feel comfortable usually if you pull back the guy can take a hint and realise this. However if your bf is too pushy in any way you're best off telling him you are not comfortable with him touching you as he is. If he is considerate he should take this into account and take things more slowly and within your comfort zone. It is best to have this communication so that you don't rush things and possibly do anything too soon that you may regret if you do not feel ready for it. Hope this helps.
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