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writes:If a guy was to say something that is quite embarassing to her or alleging her of doing something wrong, say "You are not being honest" how much does it affect the image of this guy in her mind? Does it lead to break up???????????? Reply to this Question
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (17 April 2007):
 I'm not sure under what circumstances this was said, but I think most women look for a man of integrity and good character, so she might have been embarrassed initially, but still be willing to admit she was wrong. Hopefully your intention was to correct her in a mistake to help her in the future, and not to win or score points in an arguement. If she was being untruthful about something that is between you, she may be willing to back down and admit you are right, but perhaps not right away. If you did this infront of a group of people, she would be angry and get defensive, with good reason. Always talk in private if you have an issue with her, we don't like losing face any more than men do. If she is wrong but still wants her own way, well, that shows her character. Break-ups generally happen because of problems communicating, so Try to get her to talk about it, it's the only way to get it resolved. Good Luck, I hope things work out for you.
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reader, Peachie  +, writes (17 April 2007):
 Um, it really depends on the situation where the negative statement is being said in.
For example, if this is a continual thing and you find you're constantly criticising her, then yeah, she might start to see you in a bad light if she thinks you are just doing it for no reason and/or saying she's doing something "wrong" without helping her to improve.
But if you have just said this once, I wouldn't worry about it. The best relationships are built on complete honesty and openness, and sometimes that involves pointing out things which aren't exactly pleasant about the other person.
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