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writes:Ok. Heres what im going through. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months. It feels like I"ve been with him for longer than that. Well he has a brother who hits on me behind his brothers back. I ignore him and I try to get it through his head that I care bout his brother. My boyfriend noticed his brother staring at me and he got jelous. I want to tell him but Im afraid that he might get mad at me or something. I dont know what to do. Any advice??? Reply to this Question
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (9 April 2007):
 Brothers can be extremely competetive. I totally agree with penta, he could have pulled this on his brother before. I'd tell him before he figures it out.
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reader, Midge  +, writes (9 April 2007):
 Its a catch 22 situation. If you tell your boyfriend, yes he will get angry with his brother and things with his brother will become very tense. However if you keep it to yourself, you need to make his brother 150% aware that he doesnt stand a snowballs chance in hell of getting you, so take a long walk off of short pier! If this doesnt work, you will then have no choice but to tell your boyfriend and he will have to deal with the issue himself.
There is unfortunately no easy solution to this problem, but you will have to make the decision and better get it sorted now rather than later!
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reader, penta +, writes (9 April 2007):
 This one is hard. If you don't say something to your boyfriend, he might think you were inviting his brother's advances. But if you do say something, he might think you're trying to get in between them. You've only known your boyfriend such a short time, so it's hard to know what to do.Regardless, I say assume that you can trust your boyfriend and confide in him. It's a test case. If he takes your side when you're honest with him, you'll know that you can come to him with anything in the future. Who knows; maybe the reason he's getting jealous is because his brother has pulled this before and he doesn't trust HIM.I say tell your boyfriend what's going on.
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