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writes:Am I the only woman to think it is disrespectful for your date to be staring at other women while out on a date with you? I have never had a man do this before. Most men are smart enough to at least hide it. But my boyfriend of several years and I were out at a bar, drinking, dancing, with friend, etc. I was standing next to him, when I turned to look at him and he was staring at one of the girls with my friends for a good 15 seconds or so. He said he was watching her because she was flipping some people off and he thought there was gonna be a fight. when I didn't buy this, he got mad, stormed off, came back, accused me of staring at another man and wanting my ex back. and today he is upset that accused him of "gauking" when he said he was only looking to see if she was provoking a fight. Yes she was flipping off people, but they were all friends and joking. I seen it. So basically here is my question. Does his story hold water? and I wrongfully accused him? or was he obviously staring at this woman and trying to lie his way out of it.
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reader, van1llabeeen87 +, writes (12 July 2011):
 and i'm saying this in response to your latest update on here b.t.w.....i know that i would be very hurt if my man was exhibiting behaviors like groping a relative's bum (and not just once but 3 times!) or bringing a random chick home for a threesome...he is scum!!!
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reader, van1llabeeen87 +, writes (12 July 2011):
Leave him. He's scum and he doesn't deserve you. This man (boy-a real man won't treat you this way) clearly has little to no respect for you or your feelings. If you value your sanity, you will get out of there. Now!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, what I think this man needs is a dose of his own medicine. But he warns me that if he ever catches me doing certain things, then he will whip the man and leave me to go home with him. So i am careful to not do anything to get him into a fight. But this is the 4th time we have been out and he has done something that if I did it, he would have been livid. Once he was hugging up on a waitress, another time he slapped my cousin's butt 3 different occasions one night, and then on another brought some random girl home and her boyfriend with us with the idea of a threesome. I feel like I can't go out with him because it usually ends up in some kind of dramatic disaster. Sometimes I feel that if I show him how these behaviors make you feel, then he might get it, but then again, I am afraid his temper will get him in jail or he will storm off and leave me stranded.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (11 July 2011):
 He probably was watching her because she was doing something interesting (flipping people off) and she was cute. But honestly, whatever! 15 seconds later, his concentration was back on you. I think his story is probably accurate - sometimes you get lost in looking at someone - kinda zoning out - and end up accidentally staring. It helps if they're attractive.
I don't think this reflects at ALL on who he is or his feelings about you. If he treats you well the rest of the time, let this 15 seconds go!! Good luck!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (11 July 2011):
 I could lie and say this kind of things doesn't happen, but you know they do. I think the occasion will come when it will be you who will stare at a man.
I say, if he loves you and the relationship is good, let go of this.
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