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writes:its a long story ,but im gonna try to make it short as possible, there s a guy that i like so much,i ve liked him 4 almost 2 years ,and he likes me too ,we r both in college ,and he always sits behind me in class and tries to find any excuse to talk 2 me ,and all my friends tell me that he stares at me all the time,but the problem is that we r both a little bit shy,so we didnt talk 2 eachother that much,but he asked me to hang out with him oneday and we talked like for 3 hours ,and it was like really amazinganyway the problem is that yesterday was the last day of college so i was hoping that we r gonna hang out together or something like that ,but he just left after the exam so i didnt get the chance to talk 2 him,i mean i just dont get it if he really likes me ,then why would he leave that fast? eventhough like 2 days ago he kept staring at me like for 10 minutes (i wasnt looking at him but my friend told me that)so now i dont know if im gonna see him ever again ,and i dont even have his #, and my friends told me that he didnt talk 2 me yesterday coz he probably thinks that he doesnt have any chance with me or something (i never really did anything to let him know that i like him)so,guys what should i do ?,i really like this guy soooooooooo much,do u think that theres still some hope or i should give up on the whole thing ,and if u think that i should let it go ,then how? please any advice,im really depressed ,and today i woke up crying so..........coz it really hurts so much and i just feel so lonely without him ,i cant believe that i ll never see him again or talk 2 him ,and what hurts the most is that im the one who hurt his feelings,i just cant forget about him and theres so many memories................pleaaaaaase can anyone help me? i mean we liked eachother and everything,so what went wrong?thanks ,appreciate any advice ,and if anyone has a similar story maybe..........please no rude answers
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2011): I don't want to crush your dreams but I think you're blowing this out of proportion. How do I know? I used to do the same thing back when I was your age and in college.
You have no idea whether he likes you or not. A stare here or there doesn't mean much. And forget what your friends tell you. They have no idea either. Back when I was in college there were always guys who looked at me, even flirted with me sometimes, but many times it went nowhere. Why not? Because they weren't that interested.
This guy might like you a little bit but not enough to make much effort to talk to you, to ask you out, to pursue you. Nothing you can do about this.
One thing I'm confused about is when you say you hurt his feelings...how?? What did you do?
Bottom line is that you're making a mountain out of a mole hill. You don't know if this guy is even interested in you and you're getting depressed because you may not see him again.
I honestly think that if he really liked you he would have made more of an effort to talk to you before college ended. Sure he may be shy, but if he really wanted to do something he would have.
But if you still think there's a chance for you and you want to put your mind at ease, see if you can email him, find him on FB...you'll soon have your answer.
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reader, luckycloud  +, writes (12 July 2011):
hi :)sounds relevant to my current situation :)my guy also left without real explanation. although I told him many times that I like him too, I just didnt say Yes when he asked me to be his gf, because at that moment I wasnt ready. so ... bad timing :) my guy is shy too. and Im an Asian, so normally Asian ppl dont show our feelings out much :) But at first place I was open to him and get to talk to him.Sorry it takes too long. HERE MY ADVICE:you were in the same class, so try to ask your friends around to get his number, or any way to contact with him.it's really stupid when you both are just shy and didnt say anything to each other, so things come to an end. If you like him enough ... just come find him. and say it out. :)I dont know about him, but it happened to me twice when I feel too much for someone, I told them although I can tell the refusal :) but ... what can you lose? so just LET HIM KNOW about your feelings! be strong be strong :) I wish you the best :)
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