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writes: My boyfriend and I are having some problems. He wants to break up with me because my parents don't like him. I tell him that it shouldn't matter what they think as long as I love him. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, tux  +, writes (14 April 2006):
 There's an old saying.. you're not marrying someone... you're marrying their family. which may be what he is thinking.. or he may think having a relationship with you and your parent that don't like him as too difficult to handle.. which if that were the case, he doesn't deserve you. But you may want to talk to your parents about him and see why they dislike him.. maybe if they agree you can have dinner together with your bf and parents. but as its already been mentioned is that they may see something in him that they are trying to protect you from which may be unmendable. Although age can be the factor.. how old are you and him?
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (14 April 2006):
 Hi
you are too right there! It shouldn't matter what anyone else says. As long as you feel for him and it is meant to be, everything will be fine
mail back and tell me how it goes!
Phoebe xxx
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reader, Bill23 +, writes (9 April 2006):
I can understand where he is coming from because I was in a situation like that before with this girl that I really liked and I ended up breaking it off brcause I didn't feel at ease with or around her mother. Only thing I can tell you is tell your parents to mind their own and stay out of yours.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2006): I can understand this being an issue for him if he is wanting something serious for the two of u. Lets face it, it wouldn't make things easy. However i also agree that it is unfair to u. Just tell him there is nothing u can do to change their minds so he either faces up to the fact or he loses u. If he really loves u then i don't think he will let go that easy however frustrated he is by the circumstances.
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (6 April 2006):
 I think the real question is how much pressure is being applied from your parents. Will they let him in the house?
How old are you both as well?
Do they feel that you are too young to make up your own mind?
Parental pressure is certain to put a boy/man off and if they are making it difficult for you to see him then you can understand where he is coming from as he probably cannot see any other way to resolve it.
Has he done something that your parents know about or disapprove of?
Keep talking right now and you need to understand more about why your parents do not like him.
If you are under their roof then they can apply the pressure, if not then you should be able to live your own life and see who you want to. If this guy is unsuitable due to drinking or anything worse then obviously they are just looking out for you.
Without more information it is hard to comment further.
Let me know or any of the others so that a clearer answer can be given.
Good luck anyway.
BFN
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