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writes: Anyone out there please respond, my 7 month pregnant wife has been diagnosed with the HPV std. we have been told it can only be transmitted through genital to genital contact. we have been married 6 months after long previous marriages. she was in a 3 year relationship and a one and half month relationship with a man that used condoms. I was married 20 plus years, had unprotected sex with a few woman before the age 19. I am now 44 she is 42. we were also told this virus can stay dormant for years. I am afraid my wife will think I infected her because of not using condoms years ago and I think its more likley her recent 4 year history has more to do with it. as far as I know there is no way of telling. I wouldnt blame her if she gave it to me but feel she may blame me. any one out there with this condition. I was reading that 80% of all woman get this by the age 50. I love my wife. I could live with the fact she gave it to me but not sure if she feels the same. she has already said (I told you it was bad to have unprotected sex) right now she seems to realize it could have very well been her past but because she knows my past number is higher, I think this may become a problem for me.
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reader, medstud1  +, writes (1 September 2010):
I usually stay clear of responding to medical questions, but I think I may be of some help here. I am a senior medical student, so I do have ample knowledge of the subject. HPV 16,18, 32, etc. are stains that of concern for cervical dysplasia, the pre-cancerous cell state. Key answer to your question is that you both probably had HPV prior to marriage. At least statistics support this as the case. Condoms do not protect her. It is sometimes called the "common cold" of sex and while prophylaxis does help prevent many stds; it is unlikely to have protected her. Most people test positive by age 30. CDC suggests %50, but multiple marriages/sexual contacts, etc. She likely had it prior and likely you did too. Management will not change either way. . . regular pap smears, possible colposcopy. . . just follow-up with your Ob-Gyn as usual. Hope you rest a little easier.
Sincerely,
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2006): As`someone who does smear testing, we do not even need to inform a woman that they have HPV or even give any treatment. There are many strains anyway and the concern is that a few of the strains give a higher risk of cervical cancer. It is also more prevailent in women who smoke and can disappear over time. The important thing is for her to have regular smear test, and she does not even need more frequent ones than a woman who does not have HPV.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (6 April 2006):
 This is so difficult for both of you. Chances are you are both carrying the virus and hers has been triggered into appearing because of the hormones in pregnacy. Dont play the blame game, because it leads to heartache and neither of you will ever know the truth anyhow!!
Concentrate on getting this cleared up and on having a healthy happy baby.
Good luck
xx
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