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writes:Hi, i have been in a relationship for nearly two years now and even though im only young know he is the one for me. I am totally in love with him and no one else could make me happier. Recently, i went out to a club and had far too much to drink and consequently kissed my boyfriends mate. I told him and now wants nothing to do with me. I feel absolutely devastated, i cant be without him. At the moment he says for me to leave him alone and will have nothing to do with him but i feel as though i cant just leave it. This is the first time i have ever done anythhing like this and i know its inexcuseable but i really cannot remember a thing, and woldnt have known if i hadn have been told the following day. I really want to get him back. What can i do?Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (17 March 2010):
 What can you do?
Learn from this.
Give up alcohol so that you never ruin your next great relationship with your drunkenness.
-Frank
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reader, kayla20 +, writes (17 March 2010):
 you shouldnt get so drunk that you dont no what you are doing to be honest although it does happen.you had to suffer the consequences he might come round but in his eyes he sees it as you being unfaithful and if you can do that once then you can do it again you need to gain back his trust but it may take some time.give him some space for a bit maybe said him an apology text or something saying how sorry u are and your feelings towards him and how you wasnt aware that this had happened being under the influence and youd like the opportunity to explain everything before chucking away what you have previously shared together dont be all excuses though you do have to take some responsibility in what you have done but you have to understand he probably feels like his girlfriend and friend are having a laugh at his expense and going behind him back so he is bound to be hurt from what he has heard he may not get over it but you might have a chance if you give him a little bit of thinking space but at the same time make him aware of your feelings in all of this good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2010): Ok the first thing to do, is stop calling him and texting him.
This will just make him angrier.
He needs time to digest what has happened. The other AA's have suggested a letter and I think its worth a shot too.
Make sure in said letter that you emphasise how drunk you were and that you care very deeply for him.
However if hes done with you, dont waiste your life pining for something thats over. there are other guys in the world that will be good bfs too.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (17 March 2010):
Nothing. You have to wait for him now. He might decide that he wants you back. He might not. To have kissed his best friend was a huge mistake. Now he will feel betrayed by you and him, the two closest friends he had. If he wants you to leave him alone, do just that. Write him a letter explaining how sorry you are, and send it. But don't do anything else, because it will drive him further away. I will tell you now that you don't really stand a chance. A letter might make him think. But other than that, there is nothing you can do. Men do not respond well at all to girlfriends kissing their best friends. He will not likely forgive this. If he doesn't' come back, then in the future you will have learned a lesson. Do not get so drunk that you don't know what you're doing.
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