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writes: I am 18 and my boyfriend is 20. He wants arthritis and insists: "People with arthritis have the best sex lives and lives in general. Arthritis is cool"What should I do? Our relationship was good up until now.Dannii in Leeds Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2006): This sounds a lot like the "my boyfriend wants to become obese...obese people have the best sex lives" question posted a few weeks ago...
If this is serious, you boyfriend is unfathomably stupid. I don't recommend letting him father your children. On the same note, you may also consider child-proofing your home; sounds like this fellow could mistake rat poisen for kool-aid mix.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (5 May 2006):
 Maybe take him to your nearest arthritis ward in a local hospital? Once he's seen real arthritis he'll realize he's talking nonsense.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (4 May 2006):
 You are 18 and nobody can be as daft as to believe this sort of rubbish. Come on.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (4 May 2006):
 I have no idea why anyone would think arthritis would boost your sex life...I have worked in many hospitals and think it is pretty safe to say that when you are in that much pain, and have that much disability (in the severe stages) then sex is probably the last thing on your mind. Your man sounds a bit attention seeking and maybe he has mixed up arthritis with some other condition. Maybe he is just going through a phase of thinking up things to shock people.
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reader, Blooregard +, writes (4 May 2006):
My grandmother has arthritus, and it has made her an INCREDIBLY bad tempered woman. Your boyfriend, if he did have arthritus, would most likely be in extreme agony for a long time and be too moody to have sex anyway! I sure have seen the fights her and my Grandfather have since she has had arthritus, trust me, they aren't getting along so how can it possibly be good for the sex life? Are you sure your boyfriend was not saying this to you as a joke? Talk to him and explain how painful and mood altering it is, luckily I don't think he can purposefully inflict himself with arthritus, but you should definatly talk to him and try to get this silly idea out of his head.
very best of luck x
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reader, Sis6372 +, writes (4 May 2006):
IS HE CRAZY! I think your boyfriend needs to talk to a physician, Arthritis is very painful it can cripple you and make it difficult to even do the smallest tasks, like walk up stairs, or open a jar. I've worked for plenty of physicians and my grandma also has it, she has to use a walker to get around, I've seen people in wheel chairs, etc... And as for the sex, it wont get better, it will get worse, it will hurt and he could lose his ability to perform. Tell him to look it up on the internet and when he's done reading the first article he wont want it.
GOOD LUCK!
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reader, bonym +, writes (4 May 2006):
 Errm, Danni, I think your boyfriend is coming across as a bit of nutter!! No seriously, there is NOTHING cool about Arthritis, its not nice at all. And as for sex, well you are not speaking to an expert, but word has it that arthritis causing a heck of a lot of problems when it comes to intimacy, I dont think you need to be a rocket scientist to see how!!! I am honestly not quite sure what to say, but tell your boyfriend, be careful what he asks for, because my dear when he gets arthritis, he will wish to the Almighty God he didnt have it. The excrutiating pain you go through is unbearable. I know, my mum got it at about 45, and she was in agony. How can a life riddled with pain be better? You ask him!!!! xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2006): Arthritis is a disease which deforms the bones and is crippling. surely your boyfriend can't mean this? Talk to your Mum or a trusted adult.
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