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writes: I'm a father of two, one 9 year old son and one 16 year old son.Recently I found out that my 16-year-old son likes wearing bikinis. I asked him if it was true, and he admitted it was so. He told me he isn't gay or a cross-dresser, just that he feels most comfortable in bikinis.I worry about him; so does my wife. He told me he wants to wear them in public. I worry he'll be bullied etc. What problems would he face??Is there a way for me to deal with this situation??Matthew
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (6 May 2006):
 Can't see a problem with this really then. At 16 he is old enough to take what happens if he choses to go the path of bahviour that isn't deemed *normal*. Stop worrying, he with either toughen up after some name calling and carry on or he will give it up as a passing phase. each to their own - after all he isn't harming anybody is he?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2006): This isn't a hoax, if it was do you think I'd be worried.
I found out my son liked wearing bikinis after a neighbour told me that they'd seen our son sitting in the garden wearing one listening to his iPod.
Matthew
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reader, willywombat +, writes (4 May 2006):
Ok. If you want this question answered seriously (and I have a gut feeling this is yet another hoax - bearing in mind something v.similar has been posted before) then tell us HOW you found out he likes wearing bikini's.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2006): Unless there is some other cause for concern, I would put this down to teenage experimentation.
Perhaps he is taking it a little further than most but I don't think you should be alarmed. It doesn't mean he's gay, or a cross dresser as such.
The way to deal with it.. Try not to make him feel that there is any thing wrong with him. You don't want to make him repress something like this. Try and let him have his personal space so he can do this without worrying, I think he'll stop doing it naturally.
You gotta remember that despite the way adolesants are, all they really want is acceptance from their parents and feel like they are proud of them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2006): some kids go through this phase. some grow out, others don't. but either way, he's still your son and you should love him despite. besides, if he were a girl dressing like a boy, would that be more acceptable? just let him decide what he wants to wear, and tell him you'll support him no matter what. and sure, he'll probably get bullied by other kids because of it, but it's your job as a father to be there for him. the best thing you can do is to tell him that you love him no matter what, and that if he needs you, you'll always be there.
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reader, Scouzer +, writes (4 May 2006):
Help him by not judging him. I may only be 13 but if my Mum or Dad about me dressing as a man it wouldn't make me trust them very much. When he admited it he proberly didn't expect you to be angry/upset/worried he just wanted your support. Give him advice on how to deal with bullies if you think it could be a problem. Just encourage him to be himself.Good Luck!x Scouzer x
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