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writes:SORRY ITS SO LONG BUT PLEASE READ!im really confused about whether its a good idea to stay woth my boyfriend, we were together for 2 and a hlaf years and then 1 night i was out with my friends when one of my boyfriends friends came up to me showin me txts where my boyfriend is bragging about sleepin with my best friend, another close friend of mine and this older woman behind my back, ov course i was absoloutly crushed but i just saw red and wanted revenge, i never in a millino yars thought he would have done that. anyway this lad was eyin me up all nyt and i fell for the bait and slept with him and i told my so called boyfriend the next day.he wanted to give it another try but after findin out what e did t me i thort screw him.anyway 2 and a half months passed and we both slept with other people, he of course went back to the friend of myn e went with behind my back, and then 1 night we met up for sum strange reason (must have bin the beer) and we started sleeping together and got back together, wev bin back together for abwt 2 months now and hiz family are always giving him a hard time about me cos wen we split up he told them the complete opposite and said i were the 1 that were cheating on him, his family is really winding me up now n causing problems for me, wot should i do?please help any SUGGESTIONS ARE HELPFUL!!X
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou so much for all your replys they have really put things in2 perspective for me =] cant thank you all enough and any other comments will be appreciated xxxxxx
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (8 July 2008):
 Don't put up with this guy and his crap any longer : Dump him.
This relationship has taken a turn for the worst.
The fact that he slept with your best friend behind your back ( get rid of her too, best friends don't screw around with their best friend's boyfriends!), slept with other girls and had the nerve to brag openly about it, lied to his family about who cheated and lets them give you hell for something HE CAUSED should tell you that this guy is a complete jackass.
He has no respect for you and to be blunt, I think he only got back together with you for the sex. Even then, I wouldn't put it past him to be sleeping around behind your back again.
It would be best for you to leave him and find someone else who's going to treat you the way you deserved to be treated and respect you; you're worth a thousand times more then this guy that you've settled for.
All the best!
xo
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (8 July 2008):
 Right, I'm going to be honest with you and I really hope I don't cause offence.
It seems to me that this relationship is based on a pile of lies and deceit and I'm not sure whether you can actually move on from this.
I'm sure that when you think of your ideal guy, it does not consist of:
-Sleeps with your good friends (Together or not, your ex's friends are a no go area)
- Sleeps with several other people behind your back and BRAGS about it
- Tells his family that you cheated
Is this someone you want to be with? Wouldn't you rather be with someone who treats you better?
Seriously hun, you're worth so much more than that. Even if he changed or apologised till he was blue in the face, you would always have the fact that he cheated in the back of your mind and whenever he goes out, you'll think that he's been playing away or wonder what he's up to.
Please, for your own sakes, leave him and find someone who'll treat you with respect. If you think about this, I think what I'm saying will make sure and if you love yourself enough ( which you should) you know what you have to do.
Take care xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2008): Long?! LONG?!
You haven't seen long yet, have you seen some of my answers! =P
Okay, I'm not to sure what to say so I'll just say everything on my mind. For one this would've made your situation easier if you hadn't slept with that guy, but I can't blame you. You were angry and as you said, wanted revenge.
I think you should talk to your boyfriend about this. Say how much its bothering you and stuff.
I can see him yelling at you for that, but you can't keep putting up with his family like that. If all else fails, tell the family how much its bothering you. Again they probably won't believe you.
So your stuck.
Your boyfriend won't do anything about it, his family won't stop.
Do you want to be with someone that had cheated on you and his family giving you grief?! Or do you want to be with someone that won't cheat on you and you can live happily ever after?!
I'd personally say keep looking for that special person. Problems you can't stop and problems like this should be escaped. They can escalate to all kinds of problems.
As you said, it was alcohol that brought you together again.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (8 July 2008):
 I would tell him that he has to come clean with his family or you are outta there. He caused this and he should be prepared to fix it! Then have him invite you over to make up with all of them. If he wants your relationship to work, he should be prepared to do all of this!
XXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2008): Hey, this completly sucks, have you told your boyfriend how you are feeling about this? Maybe you could ask him to tell the truth, if that doesn't work, tell them yourself, if they don't believe you, then at least you will know the truth. So, maybe sit down and have a talk with him about it, don't let either of you make it into an argument, he should tell the truth, but like I said, then you tell them, he may not like it, but then he deserves it, doesn't he?
Good luck, hope everything turns out OK.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2008): Two wrongs don't make a right.You should have just dumped him as soon as you found out.But he has no respect for you,
as if he did,he would have admitted he made a mistake.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (8 July 2008):
Well tell him he needs to tell his family the truth.
You can't have them thinking badly of you. What if your relationship gets serious?
Tell him to get it sorted and tell them the truth now or you will.
Good Luck!! xx
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