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writes:1. hi, ive been taking intense gymnastics and ballet training for the past 8 years is it possible that my hymen could have been torn already? 2. when u do have sex do u bleed? is the pain unbearable? 3. how many times do u have sex before u feel pleasure?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2010): Like most said above, I hope you're not planing on having sex yet. But if you are be sure your emotionally and physically ready.
Besides that:
Virginity is when you have sex not when your hyphen breaks. As many people said sports can break your hymen. My best friend broke hers during a gymnastic meet. She said it hurt a little but not very bad. It maybe different for others because we are all different! And it is possible that any girl could have torn their hymen already. All I know is that I could have!
I haven't had sex but from what I've heard from friends, family and health teachers that sex can be painful if your body isn't ready, such as "wet" enough, and may have to use lube. The blood depends on the person and how their body works/responds.
The pleasure part is up to you and your partner. I've heard that having sex with someone you really love boasts up the pleasure during intercourse. Also your first time could be more pleasurable than your second, third, or forth(ect.)!
I hope you just wanted to know this for the future because sex isn't something people, any age, should be thinking about unless married or truly in love. Having sex can cause emotional and physical damage. Emotional as in a broken heart, regret and so on. Physical as in STDs or having a baby. Your body isn't ready for birth at such a young age!
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reader, sjwcool +, writes (27 July 2008):
 it's actually really common for female atheletes to break their hymen. my cousin was really pricess like hardly ever did anyhting athletic and went horse riding at 15 and broke her hymen. so I wouldn't worry about it at all.
when a virgin has sex it's not un common for there to be blood and for most it does hurt but, if you find someone who respects you and cares if he's hurting you or not it can be a lot easier. I am quite large so even with girls that are experienced I have had to put it in part way untill she was comfortable with the width. for me it wasn't a problem but a lot of guys aren't as patient.
most of the time on the first time if you get really wet or use lubrication it is pleasurable the first time. there are really 2 things that cause pain
1. is your muscles will be strecting in ways your not use to. being an athelete your muscles maybe very strong and harder for them to strech.
2. is friction if you rub your hand together really fast for a few seconds your'll feel heat the same heat will cause dryness and then it will be skin on skin friction that will cause it to hurt. but as I mentioned before if you get really wet before insertion or use lube it will be less painful
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): Virginity isn't about a hymen. It's the emotional/mental state of never having had (consensual) sex.
If you were in your 20s, it's more than likely that you would no longer have much hymen left even if you had never had sex before.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (8 July 2008):
 i agree with the other poster, i hope your not planning to have sex any time soon, your so young so please wait!
there is a chance that your hymen could be broken already, alot of sports such as horseriding, gym etc can cause it to break.
experiencing sex for the first time is different for everyone. for some it can be painful, others they can bleed, some ppl dont feel any pain. my first time was painless and no blood. so you never know wat it would be like for you.
there is no set number of times before you experience pleasure. again everyone is different!! sex with someone you trust and love makes it all the more pleasurable and its not something that should be jumped into at such a young age.
im sorry to sound harsh too but that fact that you are asking these questions goes to show that you are still too young to be having sex, and you're not mature enough. sex is very intense and intimate and brings alot of new feelings into a relationship - feelings which you may not be old enough to deal with. your body is still growing, you are still a child. please slow down and enjoy it while you still can.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (8 July 2008):
 I certainly hope that you are asking these questions out of curiosity and not because you are planning to have sex, because you are too young. The two questions that you should ask yourself before you actually, finally DO have sex are "Will this guy be a good Father?" and "Am I ready to become a Mother?", because sex makes babies!
Well, as far as your questions go, Yes, any kind of strenuous and vigorous exercise could have already compromised your hymen and in might not be intact, possibly. The only way to know for sure is to see a OB/GYN (Doctor for Women). Losing your virginity can be a little bit pinchy and painful, but not unbearable. Some women bleed not at all or very slightly, some more than than, it varies quite a bit. It doesn't continue to bleed like your period, that much blood or for that long either. If you have had an orgasm by masturbating, which is normal for guys and girls, then you should be able to eventually have one when you have sex - Within An Adult Relationship. The bond that you have with a sexual partner has to be a close one for women to experience pleasure from it, and it does sometimes take a while before women get there. It's not automatic, it takes trust and communication to become good in bed together, which is why you should wait for a partner that you love, trust and want to spend a lot of time with much, much farther down the road.
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reader, Hadouken!  +, writes (8 July 2008):
 1. It is possible, most females break their hymen without realising it before they have sex. Seeing as you are a gymnist and a ballerina, its probably possible that you have already.
2. Some women bleed, some don't. It all depends on your body really. The pain gets better, some women have no pain at all. The same goes for the bleeding, it all depends on your body alone.
3. Again, every woman is different. Some have pleasure the first time, where as it takes other a lot longer. Only you will know.
Lastly, if you're planning on having sex soon aged 13-15, please reconsider. I made that mistake at 15, and I've regretted it ever since. I'm not saying that you will though, just remember to use protection.
Take care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2008): 1. Yes it is possible. Its possible for it to break by doing just about anything.
2. Ermm apprantley you can do. If the pain was unbearable would you, me, everyone else on this site and the world be here today?!
Foreplay apprantley eases the pain, but it certainly isn't 'unbearable' and it might not even hurt at all.
3. By you asking these questions your either just curious, or you want to have sex. If you are actually after sex, it'll loose all meaning by the time you can actually have some pleasure, do it properly, and are able to mess around with adult games. Because adult games means adult consequences.
The first time doesn't do anything, and it doesn't do anything for you at that age. You do it at that age to feel cool, mature, older. You feel you know everything. Yeah I'm around your age too, I don't feel I know everything. You need life long experiences and you don't have that at that age.
As you grow older, more mature and are able to actually feel love properly, thats when you start feeling some pleasure. Thats why its called making love...
Sorry my answer might seem harsh, and I am only saying that because I have a hunch your considering it. If your not then ignore half my answer and I apologize. But to put it bluntly, as you get older and have more independence thats when you start feeling pleasure. As I said, its best when you learn to love.
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