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*hatshouldido
writes:hi, me and my boyfriend have been going out with each other for 6 months now, one night we were drinking and we got into an argument, and he slapped me, and told me i deserved it, i said you shouldnt of hit me, he said no, i havnt hit you, ive only slapped you cos you deserved it, now im wondering if this is acceptable, is he right? in saying i did deserve it, am i over sensitve, i wasnt brusied or anything the next morning, but the fact is he slapped me, and im wondering now, if he will do it again........any answers please, would be great, thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, whatshouldido +, writes (30 August 2010):
whatshouldido is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone, for your comments, thanks for caring to reply, appreicate it friends,
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (30 August 2010):
It's not right to hit or slap someone, no matter how angry you are. If he doesn't even feel like he was in the wrong, and is saying that it's your fault, he could very well be on the way to continuing like this and getting worse. Do not let yourself get caught up in an abusive relationship.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (30 August 2010):
Not only will he do it again, but it will get worse. You didn't' deserve it, and you need to walk away from him NOW.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2010): He almost certainly will find other reasons you deserve to be hit, which you probably already know. Assuming you where not attacking him then you didn't deserve to be hit, however if you stay knowing he has done this before and get hit again you are partially to blame for staying(assuming you have the ability to get out, which given you have only been together 6 months is probably so.)
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reader, almc +, writes (30 August 2010):
He is going to do it again, leave him its only been 6 months.. Get out!! You can do way bettter then that loser that needs to hit girls.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (30 August 2010):
 In my book people don't hit and no one ever "deserves" to get slapped, kicked, punched....
It will escalate. My question to you is this:
WHY are you accepting this treatment from any one and specially from someone who supposedly love and care for you?
There are MANY other ways he could have handled the situation, he chose to hit. How about next time? He might stab you or kick you.... and he will CERTAINLY tell you it's all your fault.
Get out while you are still in one piece.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (30 August 2010):
 Yes he will do it again. Yes he will tell you you deserved it, again. And if you keep deserving it, he may decide you need a fist in your face as a convincer.
GRGO, sweetheart...Get rid and get out
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2010): In my opinion, no, it is not acceptable to slap another person. You did not deserve it, nobody deserves to be hit like that. I think it is very possible he will do it again in the future, since he does not seem to regret what he did. On the contrary, he seems to think he was entitled to slap you. So I do think it may happen again. If that is unacceptable to you, I think you should seriously consider walking away. I don't want to start assuming things and say it might get worse, but...please just do be careful with this man. And trust your instincts. If it doesn't feel right to you, LISTEN to those feelings and act upon them.
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