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reader, Lissa12  +, writes (8 May 2012):
I know this is a really old post but yea I'd say he was a cheater and that text was suppose to go to his other girlfriend. I'm having trust issues with my boyfriend of 2 years. He's cheated many times in the past and I think he's up to no good again. I sent him a text saying I love you and he sent one back right away that said I love you too baby. Then I received another text a minute later from him that said "I'd really like her opinion of me" ... I called him immediately and he wouldn't answer for almost 5 minutes. He told me that I was the one who sent him that text! He came I over an hour later and showed me his phone.. It did look like it came from me and not from him.. HOWEVER.. We both have iPhones and he's very sneaky with his.. He always has secret apps and secret folders so for all I know in that hour he used some app or hack to make it look like I was in fact the one that sent him that text.. What does anyone else think?
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (16 April 2008):
 Your missing the fact he's probably up to no good, because you dont want to see it.
I had a guy (who was very nice by the way) swear on his own daughters life that he wasn't keeping something from me, when instincts were telling me he was. Wasn't til after we split that he admitted it, and said he felt terrible swearing on her life. Terrible? I should think so too! But even the nicest of people can lie through their teeth if it benefits them.
Hopefully we are all wrong and its innocent for you. Only time will tell.
C xxxxx
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reader, icecold  +, writes (15 April 2008):
it really sounds like hes cheating but i dont think u shuld leave him not yet wait till you know for sure and see if u can snatch his phone and read his inbox see whether he is or not
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): I've caught ex boyfriends in similar lies & they have used the old "I was kidding" line where it didn't make sense to use & then they got all pissed and defensive and left because they're mad that they got caught. He is lieing to you. Leave him.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (15 April 2008):
 "story" dang it
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (15 April 2008):
 I don't think you're missing anything. Just keep a close eye on this, my own personal radar would be on high alert! Good luck.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (15 April 2008):
I don't think you are missing a thing, sweetheart. He's dug a hole and can't get out. That's his sory and he's sticking with it.
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reader, Kerbear +, writes (15 April 2008):
Kerbear is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI spoke with him today. He swears that he has done nothing to betray me or to put my trust for him in a compromising position. He does admit that it looks bad from where I am standing and agrees that I have a right to feel that way I do. It is killing me to not trust him. I really want to believe his story that he actually meant to send this to me- but it still doesn't make sence to send that message to me.....arghhhhhhh!!!!!!! "I'm at my moms, call you in a minute" -----I just dont get it!!! What am I missing here???
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (15 April 2008):
Snoop! Although now he has slipped up, he will be more on the ball. And would of probably deleted anythig suspicious. Unless he's a complete dullard!
C xxxx
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (15 April 2008):
 Start Snooping. Something is up.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (15 April 2008):
Hi
Sounds like he is. Lucky you that he wasn't too on the ball and sent it to you by mistake! What a result!
Guess all you can do now is wait n see if anything else happens.
C xxxxx
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (15 April 2008):
Wheeee Doggies, did he ever step in it! Keep your eyes and ears open, looks like he may be cheating and that he's not very clever at it. Good luck, honey.
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reader, Kerbear +, writes (15 April 2008):
Kerbear is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you. Your feedback is appreciated. I guess in my mind I know it doesn't seem right but in my heart I can't believe he would continue on lying to me like he is... I really want to look through his phone to see if I find anything strange. That sounds crazy doesn't it....
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (15 April 2008):
Sounds like he might be, it is an extremely odd thing to do as a 'joke.' I don't blame you for doubting him and questioning his truthfulness. There's nothing you can do but have a serious discussion with him about it. You might now notice things that you hadn't before and so think very carefully about any unexplained or odd things that have happened with him recently.
Sorry for you to be going through this; make sure you take good care of yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): First of all if you have trust for your boyfriend and do love him, you owe it to him not to jump to the worst conclusion. Although unfaithfullness may be the first suspicion in a lot of people's minds, his unusual response could equally be attributed to an innocent alternative. Perhaps this person was a female friend, maybe a work colleauge, who he would feel uncomfortable speaking to infront of you - for the sake of saving your suspicion. The fact that he was not honest by saying he was actually with you and not his mom may have also been because he would feel silly rejecting whomever the message was to because he is with his girlfriend - offensive to a female friend and unmanly to his male pals! Either way he needs to realise that in order to maintain a healthy trusting relationship he needs to cut out this strange behaviour, in order not to arouse suspicion where it is not needed. Do you have any other reason to suspect he may be forming relationships with other women? Has his behaviour changed in any other aspect of your relationship? You need to make him understand that honesty is the way forward and whatever this text meant, he needs to let you know so you can put this behind you. If he admits that he has been exchanging messages with somebody else but puts it down to harmless fun you need to decide how to take this forward. Remember, a lousy slip-up on his part now may just be the shock factor he needs to realise what he could potentially be doing to your relationship and help him to realise what he could lose. These are just a few ideas to explore and thought-paths to follow before you make your move, i hope they help.
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reader, daniellexxxx +, writes (15 April 2008):
 Sounds to me like hes cheating getting upset and walking out is all guilty signs it me and it all fell back non him hes gutted and he nos your on to him now. He first said he didnt send ou that msg then when you told him he said he did hes a lier.
Talk to him if you dont want to loose him tell him to be truthful with you i'm sure if hes got any love for yo he will tell you the truth.
Good luck.
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