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writes:okay so i'm in love with two people. my boyfriend and this guy called S. i've loved S for nearly 2 years now and he loves me too, but we've never been together offically. so yeah i wrote i love you "S" on my hand and my boyfriend saw it. what should i do?
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reader, baby-blue-eyes +, writes (12 November 2011):
first thought - well that was a stupid thing to do. did you not think about that youre boyfriend would see it? or did you want him to see it? maybe so he owuld finish you and you wouldnt have to feel like the bad person
i think you need to leave your boyfriend you obviously love this 's' guy a lot more by staying with your boyfriend youre only hurting him
i feel really sorry for your boyfriend cause nobody deserves to feel like theyre second best. how would you feel is he did that to you? cause i can tell you it feels horrible when someone does that to you.
i would also hesitate to guess since you did something this immature that you are not in love with either. rather you are in 'teenage love' which is very different to the bieng in love adults feel.
i think you need to leave your boyfriend so he can find someone who will love him with all their heart. i would also suggest that you and 's' have a talk and decide how youre gonna proceed with your relationship because this limbo state isnt good for you
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (12 November 2011):
My best friend David was going out with a girl (this was years ago). She wrote "I love Lee" on her hand. Needless to say she cared more for Lee than for my friend.
You care for 'S' more than your boyfriend, and deep down you know it. Let you boyfriend go so he can fund someone else whilst you go try to be with 'S'.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (12 November 2011):
 Like the others said, from what you have said it sounds like you love S alot more than your boyfriend.
If that is the case then its ovbious what you should do.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (12 November 2011):
 Make up your mind. If you love S, and have the intention of writing his initial letter on your body, and do other things to broadcast or show off your deep and year long dedication to S, then you need to break it off with your boyfriend because that is just disrespectful, hurtful, and mean.
Either you are with your boyfriend 100% in body and mind, or you aren't with him at all. Love S all you want, as long as it is platonic. Then show your boyfriend in your words and actions that you are dedicated to him and the relationship.
How would you feel if S wrote he loves someone else on his hand and you saw it? Maybe the reason you and S aren't together is because he likes someone else more than you?
To be honest it sounds like you don't love your boyfriend at all, otherwise it'd be HIS initial letter you'd be writing down...
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reader, TheCagedInsanity  +, writes (12 November 2011):
 You could tell your boyfriend how you truly feel about this other boy. If he's worth it, sure he'll probably get upset, but he won't go full blown insane.
You could also talk to the other boy about it - maybe your loves will talk it out.
I don't see why you would write such a thing on your hand though. Didn't it come to mind that he was bound to notice?
Anyway, I hope everything works out.
Sincerly,
Kylie
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (12 November 2011):
 Hi Judey, by writing something that obvious on your hand, your subconscious was hoping that your boyfriend would see it. Maybe you are really not wanting to be in the relationship, but rather than breaking up, you are subconsciously engineering things so that he will break up with you.
This is pretty common for things like this to happen when you are still maturing and figuring out who you like.
My suggestion is you take a break from your boyfriend for now and think about why you "love" them both; generally, mature love is directed at one person and maybe the thing is that you like aspects of both of them.
It's not really fair to your boyfriend that you have strong feelings for another guy and you choose to show it off on your hand, now, is it? How would you feel if this situation was reversed. He may have other girls who would love to date him, so perhaps consider letting him go, figure out your thing with S and try not to make such obvious cries for attention, like writing on your hand. Okay?
You're still figuring out the world, you don't have to have a boyfriend if you aren't sure he's the one for you.
Good luck.
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