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writes: My boyfriend (hes a few years older then mke) wants to go all the way when I wasn't ready. I did talk to him at least two times but he kept (he would tried an grabbed one of my breats we were in his car. I would him off)on doing it. Then one when we just another date he was all over me (again). This time I had enough, I pushed him off dump with him on the spot. Was that too harsh? Reply to this Question
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reader, howardlyndsey  +, writes (27 August 2008):
No that is exactly what you were supposed to do. Good girl!!! If you keep letting a man do what they want even if you don't want them to they will continue to disrespect you farther. And that is the way to get into an abusive relationship. Starts slowly with what you were talking about and then before you know it their calling you names and hitting you. Its all about controlling you... Stay smart sweetie your on the right track!!
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reader, starismine1 +, writes (27 August 2008):
 just talk about sex with him and tell him you don't want to have sex with him now, then don't go to secluded areas where you have intense make out sessions and arouse him to the point where he can't control himself. If you do that, you have to take responsibility for the consequences.
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reader, Lavendre  +, writes (27 August 2008):
 Too harsh? By the way how old are you? Babes that was not being too harsh obviously your so called boyfriend might even be possible for commiting rape. If you really love him and figured that you need him back. Call him get the facts straight tell him that when your ready you'll let him know. If understands where you stand give another chance if he doesn't he really deserves the boot. Tell him to find himself a slut if disagrees with you. Cause that would mean that he doesnt respect you.
If you want to answer the questions above you can.
Good Luck
Lavendre!!
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reader, RON_499  +, writes (27 August 2008):
 nope that was definitely not too harsh.you should have picked a boyfriend who understands you.but if he is sorry and tells you to forgive him i think you should give him one more chance....
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): Not at all. Stay with that attitude until YOU want to.
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reader, thats_not_my_name  +, writes (26 August 2008):
 hey! no i don't think it was harsh at all. this guy has no respect for your feelings or your body and is sooooo not worth your time! i suggest you get rid of him and find someone who appreciates you for who you are. he'll soon realise what a mistake he made (but don't take him back lol!) good luck :) xxxxxxx
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (26 August 2008):
 You have to be completely comfortable with what you do. Don't let any guy (or anyone else, for that matter ... peers, for example, who might try to tell you that "everybody is doing it") talk you into doing something you don't want to do. You are the only one who can decide when you are ready to take another step.
If you haven't told this guy exactly that, by all means make it absolutely clear to him. If you have, then he's had his warning. If he makes another grab for you, after you've told him that YOU are the one in charge and that you're not comfortable with going there, then it's time to dump him. Any man who does not respect you enough to follow your wishes in the matter does not deserve to be with you. It may be a little bit difficult, because giving up the security and companionship of a regular date is always a little traumatic; but it is just not worth it. If you do not have his respect, then you do NOT have the basis for a long term relationship no matter what things are like in other areas. It just won't work out. So you're better off getting out now than waiting until you have more invested in the relationship.
Too harsh? Dear girl you were hardly harsh ENOUGH. But you're just learning how things like that work. Now you know. Don't let ANYBODY push you into something you're not ready for.
(And by the way, while you should always give other people's opinions a careful thought, the same goes for DOING something. You're the only one who ultimately must decide when the time is right for you to actually do something. So in that regard, listen to people you respect, but make up your own mind. And in any situation where you have any degree of uncertainty, it's always better to say "no" and to wait than it is to say "yes" and maybe regret it later. "No" can always be reversed later. "Yes" never can.)
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reader, Doodles.x.  +, writes (26 August 2008):
 Heyy.No way was that too harsh. If you say you're not ready, because you're not, then he needs to respect that and listen to you. It's obvious he was only after one thing from you, and well done for standing up to him and putting him in his place by pushing him off.He has no right to force ou into doing something you are not ready for. Keep your chin up and don't let him, or any other guy walk over you like that again and try to forse you into sex.Take care.xx
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reader, natasia +, writes (26 August 2008):
 No, it was the right thing to do. I had a boyfriend like this and it wasn't nice. There are lots of lovely guys who aren't like that - now you are free to find one of them : )
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reader, Yos  +, writes (26 August 2008):
 Right decision. The guy clearly doesn't respect you. Don't be tempted if he comes crawling to you all apologetic with his tail between his legs.
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