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writes:HiMe and my boyfriend have been together for 2 and a bit years now, and i love him very much, but..at the start of our relationship we had sex every nite we spent together then it steadied off until it was once a week now we barely have sex at all. in the past i have asked him about him masturbating but he has always not answered me or made a joke of the question and he put the loss of his sex drive down to depression. which i had no problems with.I asked him tonight when the last time he masturbated expecting him to make a joke and he told me 2 nights ago. me and him havent had sex in past month or so and im worrying that he isnt attracted to me anymore. i thought if we didnt spend so much time together that may help so i have been sleeping at home and working a fair bit but this hasnt helped i feel completely rejected what do you think i should do?thanksATM
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reader, cd206 +, writes (8 February 2007):
 It sounds like he's got lazy about initiating sex. All guys masturbate, even the ones who are having sex three times a day. That's really not a big deal. With your boyfriend it sounds like he just can't be bothered to initiate sex. A lot of girls think this is the guy's job and when he no longer does it think it's because he doesn't fancy them anymore which just isn't true. Why not try initiating one night? You might be surprised.
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reader, here_2_help +, writes (8 February 2007):
 wow! well when your in the move have a bath put your bast underwear on and while he is in bed do what you knows turns him on. I just wanted you to know that sex is not the most important thing in a relasionship and there is trust and love. however everyone likes to feel needed and wanted.
hope this helps xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2007): First off I am sorry to hear your problem. It sounds a lot like something my ex would say. Saddly enough it is good to hear what she was going through possibly. I think if your situation is anything like mine (it's not because my girlfrind never said anything to me)your boyfriend will want to crawl under a rock and die if you break up with him. If it's worth it try to really talk to him and fix the issues you have. I wish i had that chance...
i still love my girl more than anything in the world. i'll may never get a chance like that again,i screwd up big time
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reader, AskEve +, writes (8 February 2007):
 It's perfectly normal for guys to masturbate but if you feel he's doing it more than being intimate with you then you need to let him know how you feel about it. Sit with him and explain how you feel very rejected by him, as if he doesn't want to make love to you any more. Ask him if he still finds you attractive and if he says yes then ask him what the problem is.
Meanwhile, make sure you look good, dress sexy, show a bit of cleavage and smell good. Sleeping at home isn't going to remedy his problem. You need to move back in with him and maybe even YOU take control in the bedroom. He just needs a "jump start" again.
Eve
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