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writes:I'm 11, soon to be 12, and have "no life". i mean, my step-brother is always talking about girls and how he should go out with them. he has many friends and says that girls think he's funny and nice. i am well, kinda strange. most kids in school think i'm clearly not interested in girls. i'm shy and don't have many friends... exept for 1. i have a crush on a pretty girl in class, but other "cool" kids are always talking to her, and i don't say a thing. i'm guessing she is already going out with someone.And another problem, i don't want to talk 2 my dad. he usually goes "oh my boy is growing up" like when i got my first deoderant. i hate it! and even if he doesn't say it, he is thinking it. and that bugs me. he doesn't think i'm even thinking about girls. and if i said, "dad, can you drive my girlfriend and i to the movies" he will say yes, but he will be thinking "oh my boy's going on his first 'date' and might get his first 'kiss'" or whatever. it embarrases me inside.what do i do? my brother is into girls, i want to be, but nobody likes me and i am shy, and i'm afraid to speak 2 my dad. Also, i dream of having a first kiss, but that will never happen it seems... also, am i too young to be thinking about this? or is everybody else in school getting into these relationships early?i feel soooo lost.sorry if his is too long
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007): I am 12. I have the same problem. I have trouble talking to my rents. They think i'm to young to have a quote "girlfriend" Even though all the guys in my grade have one. Your not to young. U have to tell your dad eventually, do things to make it easier. Right him a note. Dose your brother no you like girls? Tell him and then he can tell your dad so you don't have to.
Dose the girl u like no you like her? You should become her friend. Be there for her. Give her most any thing she wants. Compliment her. Be the best friend you can be. Then tell her you like. U don't have to say it to her face. rite her a note. that's what i do. Get one of ur friends that is a girl to ask her if she feels the same way. If she dosn't, don't get discuraged. Don't get all depresed and stuff. Don't stuff your face. Move on. Some day you'll find a girl that likes you. Don't feel lost. Your not alone
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2007): dont be shy give her a note
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2007): honey honey... ive been told that I look like britney and paris and yadda yadad and Im 21- and Ive still never been kissed- and it doesnt bother me at all! Try to love yourself for who you are- the moment you start to depending on others for your happiness- is the moment you become unhappy and lose control. play sports- focus on school and be chummy with your guy friends and the girls at school- you dont have to like anyone and really if anyone makes fun of you dont listen- kids your age have a ton more to learn ahead of them- dating gets serious when you are about in college- and you have wayyy too much time till then.. so just worry about school, sports and family and health for now and you wont regret it- it may be hard to keep focused with everyone around you- but its better to be sure in yourself and your mentality than it is to have regrets about dumb relationships- especially at your stage in life.. they may seem important now but they will mean nothing by the time you are mature... hope this helps? just be yourself kid and have fun.
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reader, ask jessie  +, writes (8 February 2007):
hey im 11 to so know how you feel. its totally normal for girls like us to develope feelngs for other girls. its just our hormones! you will get your first kiss, but i doubt it will be shared with a girl. dont worry ok?jessie
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2007): hey there i think "askeve" is totally right, you should talk to your dad.otherwise in the long run you'll regret not becomeing close to him. If your uncomfortalbe with the fact that he will embarrases you by babying you then tell him " dad i dont appreciate you babying me around all the time, i know i'm growing up you dont have to tell me its bad enough i have to find out the hard way" and get him to respect you more
You also never said you talk to your brother i get the best advice from my big sisters and i learned most of my stuff from them you also didn't mention a mother figure but the women of the house seems like your best bet for girl advice she can tell you what to say what we women want to hear!
Just be yourself introduce yourself to new people guy or girl making new friends will boost your confadence. Gather up the streath to ask her out really the worst she can say is no. And if she says no, its her lost!
GOOD LUCK :D
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reader, AskEve +, writes (8 February 2007):
 Your dad still sees you as a kid, he doesn't realise you're growing up quick. Talk to your dad, ask him how old he was when he had his first date, his first kiss etc. You might be surprised what he says. Getting used to talking with him will help you both become closer, tell him you like a girl in school and how would he handle it? Your dad will probably give you great advice! :o)
You ARE still very young and your hormones are just kicking in. Just remember, there's plenty time to start dating. Talk to the girls in your class and get to know them better. You'll know when the time is right to ask one of them out and your first kiss will come naturally so DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT!
Eve
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