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writes:I am a 21 year old college student, who has been dating the same guy since my freshmen year. I am now a Junior in college. My question is about my boyfriend and how he makes broken promises. Basically he has made plenty of broken promises, he is the type of individual who likes to communicate, very busy, and pretty much takes my emotions and feelings for granted. This most recent broken promise was tonight, he promised to cook dinner for me, and bailed and said he is going out tonight to party with his friends. Should I continue to sit back and complain about the things he does and try to forgive or should I walk away? The reason things are so difficult to pick up and walk away is the fact that he was my first, I am in love, but I don't think I can take his constant broken promises, lack of consideration, and him just not caring...I really don't know what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 November 2010):
There comes a point where you need to decide whether you're happy being second best. And, to be honest, you're second best and not happy about it. He promised to cook a meal, then bailed and went out with friends. That's pretty crappy in its own right. From what you're saying, he's done things like this before. And he will continue to do it. The problem is that he will break more and more important promises as time goes by. Now, it's about cooking meals and such. In the future, it could be about homes, cars, money, children.
I think that this relationship has gone as far as it can. 3 years, and he's broken so many promises, and failed you so many times. He's just not worth the bother.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (20 November 2010):
You don't sound like someone in a happy relationship and the fact you've complained and noticed it doesn't help gives me reason to think the relationship doesn't mean much to him either.
I would end it. Today.
Now, I'm not you so I don't really know you feel towards him and if you're not ready to end it yet, give him ONE more chance.
Tell him that you're tired of his broken promises and careless attitude towards you and the relationship. Tell him that you want him to follow through on his words or not bother at all. Whenever he promises something meet it with skepticism. Let him work to win your trust in him back.
If he doesn't put in the effort end it immediately. Show him you can't be taken for granted.
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