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writes:hi, my expartner text me yesterday to pass on her condolences for a friends funeral i was attending. she never new this person so why after not talking to me for three weeks would she do this. she said she was thinking of me and hoped i was ok. i tried to call her but she would not answer. she sent a text instead saying that we were over and could not be friends. this is so confusing. can anyone understand as to what she is doing. thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2010): I think she was probably concerned about you, and just wanted to let you know she was sorry to hear about your friend. Nothing more than that. From what she has said, she clearly doesn't want any more contact, and does not wish to remain friends. But I can understand your confusion. Although it was thoughtful of her to send you that text, it is a bit unfair of her to then ignore you and say you cannot be friends, and that she basically wants no more contact. I would just try and forget about it this one time, and leave her be, as she clearly doesn't want to start having contact. But if she randomly contacts you again, even for caring reasons, I think you should express to her that it is not fair for her to contact you when SHE feels it is appropriate and then blank you. It is confusing for you, and she needs to understand that.
My condolences for the loss of your friend also. Take care.
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reader, LovelessAct1  +, writes (20 November 2010):
When she said that she was "thinking of you," you may have interpreted it as thinking about you on a personal level, when in reality, she was just keeping you in her thoughts knowing you were attending a funeral. Nothing more.
You asked why she would do it? Its the human thing to do. If I had an ex that was going through a death of a close one, you'd bet I'd send her a quick message giving my condolences; not because I am truly thinking about her on even a friendship level, but rather because its nice for them to hear someone cares about their troubles enough to think of them.
I think you over analyzed this one, but at least now you know; she does not want a relationship, not even a friendship. I suggest moving on from here. Don't be confused about it, don't second guess double meanings, just move on. Good luck man.
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