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female
age
30-35,
*uddlybear
writes:my boyfriend of nearlly three years left me and wont even talk to me about it.I made a list of reasons why i shouldnt be with him, but i cant help but cry all day and call him constantly begging him to be with me, i love him so much and this is really hard for me i havent ever been with anyone else and when he wants to be he makes me feel like im the most important person in the world he is lovely to me please help me..This is the list:--------------------------he left me when i had to take a pregnancy test to go shopping with amyhe went out with erin behind my back when we broke up and when i tried to get bk with him he used to excuse "you hurt me too much"..wen relli he was with herhe cheated on me.. with a guyhe shared a bed with a girl he fancied even tho he knew i would be pissedthen he obsessed over her when she moved away and called her stunning and beautiful and drew lots of pictures of herhes lied alothe pressured me to have sex with him by going on and on about itwhen i thought i had a miscarriage i told him and he said "its fine" ..then played xbox with callumhe forced his hands down my trousers and wouldnt stop when i asked himhe doesnt talk to me because he doesnt feel like it or hes on a websitehes stood me up 3 times when ive spent 1 hour on the bus to see himI missed rileys 1st birthday party cause he was sad and i wanted to be there for him, but he stood me up anywayhe randomly gets angry and takes it out on mehe threatend to hit mehe needs time and space when he feels like ithe finishes with me because he feels like ithe spent 23p on me for my birthday coz he spent all his money the day before on guitar herohe doesnt talk about how hes feeling he just acts opon iti lost my school friends because of himhe took so much money off mehe didnt give a shit when i was in hospital because i tried to kill myselfhe treats me like shit when hes with his mates or at his housei've never came before anything else in his life..... not even his xbox
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reader, Lily Moll  +, writes (12 May 2008):
Yikes. Just keep referring to the list, girl. You can and will do better. Say a prayer thanking God that he's gone and that you don't have any kids by him. It's hard when you first break up, but it will get easier. Don't call or write him, don't visit him, and don't answer his calls or the door if he comes over, hard as it might seem. Delete his emails and texts unread. Start concentrating on yourself. Get in contact with old friends and make new ones. Spend time with your family. Take a class or start a new hobby. Read up on emotional abusers and manipulators-- because that's what your ex sounds like. You don't want to fall prey to one again. They'll treat you good when it suits them, and like crap for as long as you let them, or until they tire of you. Keep your head up, stay strong, mourn the loss, and be on your way. You deserve someone who shows you love all the time.
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reader, growing  +, writes (12 May 2008):
 What you expect form us??
What want from us??
You know it very clearly that he is not the one as you gave 20 reaosns not be with him but you still love him!!
PAIN IS INEVITABLE BUT SUFFERING IS OPTIONAL.
Why don't you opt for good things in your life.
Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.
Getting over a break up is a tough feat. However, billions of people have been through the exact same thing and lived through it, so it is possible.
The tragedy of life is not that it ends so soon, but that we wait so long to begin it.
This is what you are doing.start your life,your new life.
Letting go of someone dear to you is hard,
but holding on to someone
who doesn't even feel
the same is much harder.
Giving up doesn't mean you are weak!
It only means that
you are strong enough to let go!
Leave him,its hard but you have to..
though i can understand that after knowing these many reasons ,you still can't stop yourself loving him then how strong you feel for him .
You got pregnant and that guy didn't stand by you what other signal you want from that lamer.
Don't you want to get same love ?
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A
female
reader, growing +, writes (12 May 2008):
What you expect form us??
What want from us??
You know it very clearly that he is not the one as you gave 20 reaosns not be with him but you still love him!!
PAIN IS INEVITABLE BUT SUFFERING IS OPTIONAL.
Why don't you opt for good things in your life.
Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.
Getting over a break up is a tough feat. However, billions of people have been through the exact same thing and lived through it, so it is possible.
The tragedy of life is not that it ends so soon, but that we wait so long to begin it.
This is what you are doing.start your life,your new life.
Letting go of someone dear to you is hard,
but holding on to someone
who doesn't even feel
the same is much harder.
Giving up doesn't mean you are weak!
It only means that
you are strong enough to let go!
Leave him,its hard but you have to..
though i can understand that after knowing these many reasons ,you still can't stop yourself loving him then how strong you feel for him .
You got pregnant and that guy didn't stand by you what other signal you want from that lamer.
Don't you want to get same love ?
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A
female
reader, growing +, writes (12 May 2008):
What you expect form us??
What want from us??
You know it very clearly that he is not the one as you gave 20 reaosns not be with him but you still love him!!
PAIN IS INEVITABLE BUT SUFFERING IS OPTIONAL.
Why don't you opt for good things in your life.
Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.
Getting over a break up is a tough feat. However, billions of people have been through the exact same thing and lived through it, so it is possible.
The tragedy of life is not that it ends so soon, but that we wait so long to begin it.
This is what you are doing.start your life,your new life.
Letting go of someone dear to you is hard,
but holding on to someone
who doesn't even feel
the same is much harder.
Giving up doesn't mean you are weak!
It only means that
you are strong enough to let go!
Leave him,its hard but you have to..
though i can understand that after knowing these many reasons ,you still can't stop yourself loving him then how strong you feel for him .
You got pregnant and that guy didn't stand by you what other signal you want from that lamer.
Don't you want to get same love ?
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A
male
reader, Andrew83 +, writes (12 May 2008):
 Ok Cuddlybear, listen...
He doesnt love you ok, he doesnt put you before anythin, doesnt care about you, doesnt care about your feelings your wants or even needs. In fact, he doesnt respect you at all.
To be honest, your better off with out him.. Meet someone new who care's about you, puts you before anythin, respects you, who doesnt push you in to havin sex and alot more.
Your better off not talkin to him at all, just move on.
I can understand it hurts you now, but when you get over it you'l see that he never did love you or even want you, he was wantin the gf bf thing and only wantin you when he wants somethin from you.
Dont talk to him, he isnt worth your time and energy.
I hope this helps you Cuddlybear.
Feel free to private msg me if you to talk
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male
reader, uncle_baj +, writes (12 May 2008):
 ...and another thing, use protection, he's obviosly sleeping with other girls then, sleeping with you which is putting your sexual health at a real risk. Just do yourself a favour and get away from this dangerous excuse of a lad, 'cos although he may seem like your true love, believe me, after a couple of weeks you will start to see him for what he really is - and it wont be easy, but you will thank your lucky stars you did walk away 'cos this has got all the marks of you budding a violent, controlling relationship.
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A
male
reader, uncle_baj +, writes (12 May 2008):
Sorry but i had a hard time reading that, have u lost your mind? You shouldn't be anywhere near this guy, he's very selfish and a bully, any man who threatens to hit you almost will eventually hit you.You are still young and you shouldn't be tieing yourself down in a controlling relationship, especially at such a young age 'cos that will affect you for the rest of your days. He's ignoring you 'cos your ringing him all the time, he's got you exactly where he wants you, because you've let him get away with everything. The more you let someone get away with - the further the next 'mistake' will go.Trust me sweetheart, there are better people out there, get back in touch with your friends, and true friends will always welcome you back.Don't ring this idiot anymore, then see who does the crawling x
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