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writes:my boyfriend got married to some other person few weeks back.He says they are not staying together, and he still tells me that he loves me and want to be with me forever and will marry me. i am not getting what to do I am not able to go away from himplease help Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (13 February 2013):
 This man is only saying things to you that he knows you want to hear and believe.
If he is still so enamoured with you why didnt he MARRY YOU?????
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2013): Why would you trust the man who betrayed you when he married another woman?Do you want to hurt yourself allover again, only this time it would be worst as you will be the mistress. He is not leaving his wife as he would not have married her in the first place. Move on no matter how much your heart is breaking and you want to believe there is hope, you are living in a false dream, this relationship is not going to happen.Let go and find someone else that will truly love you and stand by you.
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reader, Funluvver  +, writes (13 February 2013):
He is toying with you, possibly to keep you on the side for sex. Move on. Do not respond to his attempts to contact you. He is no longer your boyfriend-he is now a husband to someone else.
You need some therapy if you cannot see the need to stop this obsessing. I say that only in a helpful way. You sound in pain and I hope it woks out for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2013): how can he marry you when he already married someone else?
if he doesn't plan to stay with her then why did he marry her in the first place?
Simply not-marrying someone, is easier than getting divorced once married.
If he couldn't do the easier thing, what makes you think he can or will do the more difficult one?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2013): "He says they are not staying together, " Sorry i just don't buy it, they're probably dong it all the time and you're in denial if you think he'll now leave his WIFE to be with you, if he didn't leave her when she was only his fiancee.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (12 February 2013):
 Why are you not able to get away from this man?
HE IS MARRYING someone else.. so what does that make you? Sloppy seconds.
Don't be some guy's sloppy seconds.
WANT more for yourself!!
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (12 February 2013):
 hi
He is a newly wed, he has a new wife,they are married
You can spend the rest of your life waiting for him and sharing him
or
Walk away,get over the pain and find happiness with a man who marries YOU. x
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reader, CMMP +, writes (12 February 2013):
When I was in love with my girl I married her, not someone else.
That's usually how it works.
He may love you, but he made his choice and both of you need to accept that. You should move on with your life and if he divorces her THEN you can be with him. Don't get strung along by promises.
In all honesty it wouldn't be a good idea to be with him even if he does leave her since he doesn't seem to have an issue with hurting you. And by staying with him you'd be giving him permission to do it again.
The idea of leaving someone is harder than the reality. Trust me, you'll be happier in no time.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (12 February 2013):
 what you need to do is accept that he's not leaving his wife
he's not marrying you
he's lying to you
move on from this man.
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reader, DV1 +, writes (12 February 2013):
 If they just got married, news flash: they're staying together. You've got no choice but to move on.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (12 February 2013):
 How is he going to marry you when he just got married ?
Sure, there's divorce, but , in a country where there still such a stigma on divorce... and the divorce rate is around 1% ... it means that this has a 99% chance of NOT happening, doesn't it ?
I think he is making a big fool out of you- and you are letting him. Only you can stop that , and if you really " can't " leave him, then I guess all you can do is to resign yourself to your role of secret mistress.
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