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writes:Ok, where do I start? Well, I've been hurt a lot in relationships and now I find myself hesitating before stepping up to a girl that I find attractive. I just think of all the negatives and how there's not enough reason for me to actually ask her out. I've seen many girls that I actually like but as soon as I get the idea to hit on her, I shoot myself down. As you can tell, I'm probably suffering from low self-esteem. That coupled with the fact that most of my relationships ended horribly, I just can't find the motivation to actually be confident enough to be with someone else. In other words, to open myself up for that kind of pain again. What makes it worse is that the three times that I got up the courage to ask someone out in the last few months, they all turned me down and don't talk to me anymore. What can I do to move pass this? I get so lonely sometimes and I just want to finally feel special again. Reply to this Question
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reader, Serpico +, writes (23 August 2012):
Its like riding a bike - you just need to get back on go. The longer you wait, the worse it will get.
You are in your prime "hit on women" ages. Im 44 now, and I for a very short time I felt the way you are feeling. I can promise you at my age now I have absolutely no regrets about trying and getting shot down a single time. I can tell you I have a few about times when I whimped out and didnt do anything.
Forget about the past girls - at some point of your life you will thank God that they are gone, trust me. Dont waste your youth fretting over people who shouldnt matter to you. Look forward, get out there, and enjoy yourself. Id hate for you to be 50 and saying "I wish I did...."
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