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writes:Hm, where do I begin? I've currently been in a LDR with my boyfriend for the past six months, we are not in a LDR any longer as he moved back to my hometown.I feel like he is the most selfish boy on the planet yet I instantly can forgive him with a simple touch or, "I'm sorry baby, I love you"yet I always end up rethinking it and I always get mad at him all over again because he isnt there to convince me that what he is doing is okay - so basically im snapped back into reality.My boyfriend is at times to "lazy" to walk four blocks to meet me, and when he does meet me, we just go to his house and we sit there, or he sleeps or I sleep, or he gets high with the boys and then expects us to always have sex after!he's constantly leaving his house to go get his fix, and he leaves me there with his family and at times I don't mind as I get on with his family really well but at other times I am like WTF and I get really upset.I really don't know what to think anymore, for the most part we have a great relationship but these things are ruining it and I think he sees it as clingy but he cant look through it through my ends and I end up really hurting inside!!I wash his clothes, I give him money and he still can't walk four blocks to meet me!!!!?I don't know how to communicate with him properly about this as the only time we really talk is when were with eachother (which is almost everyday btw) and sometimes I feel like I can't say it to his face or when I do he doesn't know how to express his feelings face to face at times so he just ends up saying, "I'm really sorry, I love you"What should I do? How can I let him know this is bothering me? I think he does know it bothers me but he continues to do it anyways??I'm so confused..... I love this boy with all my heart... and I'd do anything to make it work, but would he?
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (13 July 2009):
 Why are you with this guy. He is selfish, lazy, doesn't care about you, uses you for easy sex, you are his washer woman, house keeper and banker. This story is not so much about your boyfriend but more about you. What in the hell are YOU doing with this guy and what does this say about you. If you can't see that this relationship is very wrong what does it say about the future you want for yourself. You need to move on or be prepared to suffer a painful and difficult life.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (13 July 2009):
 well why do you give him money?
you should stop giving him money so he knows he can't keep getting money from you.
perhaps talk to his family tell them how you're feeling maybe they can get some sense into his head.
i mean he's really lazy he won't meet you half way you lend him money which i am guessing he never pays you back.
you need to wake up and take the bull by the horns you tell him you won't give him anymore money and if he wants to see you and spend time with you he HAS to go to your house or MEET you halfway otherwise you won't bother seeing him.
empty threat of course but he doesn't know that.
he needs to realise that it takes two to make a relationship work and give more effort into your relationship with him because otherwise he will end up alone and most girls wouldn't tolerate this so he is very lucky to have a girl like you and he doesn't even realise it.
you need to tell him straight to his face what he's doing it wrong and he NEEDS to make more of an effort or you'll walk!
hope this helps
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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