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writes: I have been dating this guy for three months and we go to the same school but I only see him once in a while. He is a pre-med student and spends the majority of his time studying because he has really difficult classes. It makes me sad because I don't see him that much but he isn't doing anything wrong and school should come first always. I just don't know how to not let this hold me back from keeping our relationship alive. Any advice from anybody who can give me advice on how to cope with me not being so upset about this would be greatly appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, StarNews +, writes (26 March 2006):
 It has to be something that you can deal with. Since the relationship is so new, it would be a good idea to talk about your expectations from each other, and see if you can meet in the middle somewhere. Let him know you understand that he is busy with school, but tell him how this makes you feel. Observe his reactions, and if he is willing to listen to your needs and compromise with you.
His career is going to come first, and you sound very understanding of this. If you have a good relationship with him, you will be able to work through it together.
If you are needing more time than he can give you, and this is making you unhappy, it may be best to move on. Again, only you can decide, depending on what your needs are. Good luck!
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reader, chunky_monkey +, writes (24 March 2006):
Hey, I know what you feel. My boyfriend is away at college and I only see him every second weekend. It is very hard, truat me I know. Especially with him 5 hours away. What I tend to do is plan out very special dates for when he is home. Have you thought about the summer? Maybe cook him dinner and bring it over a night or two before a test. Just remember that he is shapping his future with med school and it you are patient you could be apart of that future.
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reader, kizzy27 +, writes (24 March 2006):
Make the time you have together really special. It's not the amount of time you spend with someone but the quality is important. When u know u will be together surprise him with a picnic or take him somewhere special where u can chill out togther. Having someone who can support you whilst your working towards a goal that will in the end benefit you is one of the many things we look for in a partner.
Being supportive is one thing. but also remember that a relationship involves two people and if you feel you are doing more to keep the relationship going then talk to him.
Communication as you know is very important in a healthy relationship.
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