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writes: I'm 21, and six weeks ago had a fight with my girlfriend of two years in which we basically broke up. We had been so incredibly close for two years, living together for the whole of that time, doing everything together, sharing our lives. I love her so much, but didn't really realise it until now that it's too late. She used to worship me and, although I knew I loved her, I took her for granted and didn't realise just how important she was to me. I was too ready to have an argument, and not ready enough to make her feel special. I wasn't a bad bad boyfriend, but for the last few months I was a fairly crappy one, because I was so certain we would be together forever that I just stopped working at it. We had had so many arguments like the one that finally broke us up before; but this time, she was adament that she didn't want to see me. U went to collect my stuff a couple of days afterwards, and when I got there I saw that she had a Valentine's Day card from some random guy up where my picture used to be; she also told me she had kissed a guy the night before, and started texting him there in front of me. I had never seen her so cold before. Over the next week she started sending me bitchy texts, telling me that she was so glad she was away from me - calling me all the names under the sun, telling me she had told her friends all my secrets. It was her birthday a couple of weeks later, so I got her a present, which she responded to with a nice e-mail, and a few nights later I saw her in a club and she was kinda flirty with me - ten minutes later I saw her passionately kissing one of her friends: passionate enough to make it likely that they are together now. I can't text or phone her because, by chance, she has a new phone now and she won't give me the number. I haven't heard from her in two weeks - I think she has gone on holiday with this 'special friend', and it's unlikely she'll check her e-mails.My problem is this: we have been broken up a month and a half, and I am missing her more and more. I absolutely love her more than anything in this world, and all I can remember is how much she loved me for two years, yet now she genuinely dislikes me. I mean nothing to her; she has been relatively polite in our last couple of encounters, which is even worse - she is not hurting, she isn't angry, she doesn't miss me. She is over me. How can I ever get over her? I am ridiculously depressed, and absolutely nothing is making it better. I've had time off work, I've visited my family, I've gone out with friends - nothing helps. I think about her every second. How can I get her back?
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reader, StarNews +, writes (26 March 2006):
 I think you have learned to appreciate her, and she has learned to let go. Sometimes it is best to walk away and not turn back. There are things that we sometimes regret, that are said and done, that can't be taken back.
One day you will find someone, when you feel ready, but first you must let go of the past. Accept that it is over, no matter how much you love her and want her back.
If you truly love someone, their hapiness comes first before your own. She may be happier on her own. Take these lessons you have learned from this relationship, and move on with your life. I wish you the best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2006): Heyim 24 male....and from experience all i can say that you have to put up with this feeling that you have now, stop thinking about her...its hard but you must. There was life before you met her and there is life now....Get into new things and meet new people. It will be hard because you will still have feelings for your ex even if your dating another gal and will feel guilty about that!! But dont, be possitive!! Some girls have a tendancy to be rude or nasty woth their exes....dont worry about it....shes the past!! Oh and one more thing, if she aske's you back....give her the cold sholder! and say a BIG NO!
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reader, dobby666 +, writes (24 March 2006):
 Look she is playing with your mind man! Tell her you want nothin to do with her and move on. If the nasty texts continue, change your number and don't give it to anyone you can't trust. It will be a heavy step to take and if you don't you may regret it for the rest of your life. Gut feeling isn't always the best way to go in a situation like this. Dude move on, it will get easier to accept in time. Best of luck to you!
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reader, lucky-grl +, writes (24 March 2006):
My Ex and I were together for three years. I took care of his kid's,him,And worked.He was my everything,but he treated me very bad.Im only 21. We got engaged,and I thought we would be okay,but he never appreciated me.He made me feel worse than I've ever felt.to make a long story short I finally left him. It hurt so bad,but I knew it was for the best. For a LONG year he tried to get back with me, but I knew it was over.I didn't want to live like that.I never wanted to hurt him ,but I was so hurt by him that I would talk to guys,and flirt withguys in front of him to make him feel the way I felt. We still talk,but I know I will never be with him. I guess what Im saying is be thankful for what you have. Sometimes its to late to change the past.I dont want to make you feel bad,but maybe you should move on. Learn from your mistakes. Treat the next one better!!!!!!!
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reader, corbingirl +, writes (24 March 2006):
hey i know how she fells i ve been in her situation well im in it now ne ways she might act like she hates u but really deep in side she just might love u 2, do try to get her back ne way possible , maybe well if u wanna spend the rest of ur life with her u need to be honsent with her tell her you know what u did wrong the last time and ur ready to be serious and wanna be with her no mattter what has happend!!!!!1
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reader, chunky_monkey +, writes (24 March 2006):
Tell her how stupid you were and that you would do anything to get her back. Give her a good reason to be back with you and give her time to answer
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reader, watchingwaiting +, writes (24 March 2006):
 You can't. This is such a common feeling when you break up with someone. You've just gotta learn from it and apply the lessons to your next relationship. It hurts but it makes you a better person.
Hugs.
WW
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