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*az89
writes:hey. i've been it a relationship with my partner for nearly a year now. at the beginning we were really happy. then about six months ago i found out that he'd been texing someone behind my back. he said some hurtful things about me to this other girl. anyway we sorted it out. he changed his number and deleted her. then in time we were happy again and got engaged. then i found out that he's been texting her again. even though these texts were normal (e.g. how are you. ect) it still really hurt me that he still wanted to talk to her after everything anf he didnt think there was anything wrong with it. so then i though alright then if it's ok and there's nothing wrong with it then i'll do the same and see how you like it. but after i sent a few texts i felt really bad and couldnt do it. anyway my partner found the texts about a month later and now doesnt know if he can forgive me. i know i made a mistake and played a stupid game. and i really regret it. he says he loves me but doesnt know if he can forget it. please give me some advise.
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reader, caz89 +, writes (27 December 2007):
caz89 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey thanks to everyone for all your help we have sorted things out and are trying to forget everything now. in the end he realised he's the one in the wrong and said he was very sorry
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reader, Midge +, writes (20 December 2007):
 I think he needs to grow up! He has the balls to tell you that you are wrong and he doesnt know if he can forgive you?
After you sorted out the problem, he changed his number and deleted heres, and that should have been the end of that if that was the agreement. He can renaig on his agreement by texting her, and then tell you that you are wrong for texting someone else! Who does he think he is? Does he think that there is one set of rules for boys and another for girls? Tell him that if he isnt prepared to stick to what was agreed, then he needs to find another little puppy that is going to be at his beck and call, and do all his tricks for him. You arent prepared to stick around! See how he likes that! I'm pretty sure he will change his tune!
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reader, leonard j, Douglas  +, writes (20 December 2007):
Two wrongs don't make a right. You both need to share the blame for what you both have done. And if both of you can't forgive and forget, Well, It's time for you both to move on with your lives.
Merry Christmas and have a blessed New Year.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2007): That is a bit of a cheek, taking into account what he did to you. Stand your ground and dont let him put you down! Tell him that you did it and you wont do it again, NOT LIKE HIM! Be strong and dont be walked all over.
take care
xx
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reader, Samutsen  +, writes (20 December 2007):
 He is stupid not you
I dont he has the guts to give up on you. There is nothing to worry about there is no issue to forgive.
So dont behave as if guilty, since you are not, he is...
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reader, starfairy +, writes (20 December 2007):
 He has absolutely no grounds to say "I don't know if I can forgive you". What a hypocrite!!So he texts this girl nasty things about you, you find out, get upset, he apologises and deletes her.Then yet AGAIN he's texting her further down the line despite the fact he KNOWS it will hurt you!?So you've sent a few texts, forgave him for a lot more than that, yet he can't forgive you?Forget him. He sounds like he can dish it but can't take it, he's not worth it.
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