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writes:I have a 10 year relationship with my boyfriend. And nfortunately, there is a big problem. He has gotten other women pregnant. What would I do as her girl friend? We're living together already. Hope you can reply soon on what to do on my part as a girlfriend,,Thnx Reply to this Question
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reader, Serenity1  +, writes (16 October 2008):
 I'm trying to understand the question. You say your boyfriend has got your friend pregnant or has got another woman (that you don't know) pregnant? If it's your friend that you've got pregnant you need to let him go. If not for good for a while because you will not be able to look at him without thinking about it. If it's your friend she needs her ass beat, plain and simple. And afterwards let some time go by and see how it is without her in your life. Yes it will be hard but you have to think if you've been with the love of your life for ten years and she has the audasity to sleep with him and get pregnant she's not your friend. I mean everyone makes mistakes but somethings people have well enough control to say no. I mean come on you have all these men out here to have sex with some with and some without gf's she could have picked anyone other than your bf. For the record my husband cheated on me and got another woman pregnant, I was willing to forgive him and restore our marriage, but you know what he kept cheating. The end result we're in the process of getting a divorce.
But as far as he is concerned you need to give him some air. He's wrong and he know's he's wrong. Just out of curiousity do you and him have any kids? Why have you been with this man 10yrs and haven't stressed marriage? Well hope this helps. Keep us updated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008):
OK. All we know is the 6 sentences you have given us about this situation, but in that brief problem description you have chose to include:
"What would I do as her girl friend?"
You need to take a few steps back here and maybe that is what you are attempting to do my asking us for advice. You really dont owe anyone anything in this situation. You have been wronged by both your boyfriend and your friend. This is not your problem to fix.
You are in a "10 year relationship" but what kind of relationship? Apparently you have a desire to please and are letting people walk all over you. From the outside it doesnt look like much of a relationship.
Look, you are almost 30. If you want to spend the next 18 years of your life raising another woman's child while your boyfriend refuses to marry you and probably continues to sleep around, then by all means stand pat.
The better thing to do would be to move out, in with your parents if need be and eat crow. Start over. I dont see that you'd be walking away from much in this relationship.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (16 October 2008):
 Realise that there are far better guys to get serious with, dump this guy, and go find one of the nice guys that doesn't impregnate someone else.
Well, you did ask.
C xxxxx
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