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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx guys im gonna try some of those things :)x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): Absence makes the heart grow fonder as they say. I think what your feeling right now will be completely different to what you feel when he's back. You must be used to seeing him and speaking to him a lot and i think it's normal to beleive your feelings with fizzle out without having contact with him for a while, but if you love him like you say you do you should be able to pick up where you left off when he returns.
On the other hand i think if you can already feel yourself not loving him as much maybe you didn't really love him like you thought you did to begin with. You should think of this as a test of your relationship, if your relationship can't survive 2 weeks apart maybe it wasn't meant to be. And i didn'tmean for any of this to sound harsh so all the best to you x
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reader, wantspaintogoaway  +, writes (24 September 2010):
 i am sixteen aswell and i know how hard it is. but just hang on. as soon as you get into his arms you will know just how much you missed him and it will be worth the wait. if love has disappeared just work on it. hang on there
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reader, fishdish +, writes (24 September 2010):
 Girl, I been there. My bf was overseas for 7-9 months TWICE. It is very tough when you're not seeing your person day to day. I understand your concern about feeling like your love is fading, but honestly, I do not think there is anything wrong with what you're experiencing or feeling--I think it is a defense mechanism some of us go through. I think we are trying to protect our hearts from the pain of loss and missing someone can bring on us. It is easier for us to love a little less than to hurt more and more everyday. I think that your feelings will return full force once you see him again, and reconnect and are reminded of all the wonderful things about him. Be faithful to him and be strong while he is gone. If you cannot pass this test, then maybe it is not meant to be. What helps is surrounding yourself with your friends or family, a support system that can keep you grounded and confident that you can get through this tough time. Keep busy. Join a club or do something after work/school that will keep you distracted from his being away. If you start thinking about how bad it hurts, try to think about what you want to do with him once he's back, maybe throw a party for him or something. Good luck :)
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reader, tblondie1826 +, writes (24 September 2010):
If you truly love him when he does return your love will come back. It's not gone just during the time he is gone you cannot express it. I've never personally went through something like this but I will have to soon. My boyfriend is a marine and during 4 months of training I will not be able to contact him besides in letters, maybe. So this is what you do, act like he's still there, because in your heart he is. If you have to write him letters when you want to tell him something. That way when he comes back you can show him them. But if you fall for someone else then your love for him just wasn't strong enough.
Goodluck:)
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