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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend(for 3 yrs) feels that i am too thin for him and he is not that attracted to me since i have small boobs. It really hurts me when he comments harsh things about my body. He says that i need to become a little fat to carry on with the relationship. I am gaining weight, but still look thin. I am really worried. What should i do? Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2009): You should tell him he needs a little SENSE to continue the relationship! But since that doesn't seem like it's gonna happen, dump him and find someone better :)
Anyway what's important is what do YOU think? Are you in the healthy range for your weight and height and width and all? If you are... then you're sweet :)
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reader, Stalker111 +, writes (23 June 2009):
Your boyfriend is a stupid asshole and you should dump him immediately.Any person male or female who tries to change you after you begin dating them is a crazy control freak that you need to dump.OK if your skinny body and little boobies were wrong for this guy,why did the asshat start dating you to begin with if he was so "not attracted to" you ???Do yourself a favor and go up to HIM and tell him you need him to immediatley start liking little boobies and a thin body type immediately for "this relationship to continue" then see what he says next.He is nothing but a selfish asshole who seeks to control you and is jealous of you.You are too good for him so DTMFA!!!! Do not conform to what this asshole wants.Period.Do not negotiate with terrorists or assholes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2008): Dump that asshole! I'm a guy, and even I can appreciate a girl for who she is, not how she looks. this guy is a total dick. You wasted 3 years of your life on him and this guy does not deserve your small boobs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2008): he is stupid.
dump him.
you might fee sad but later you will look back and laugh at what a loser he is.
and you will be happy with someone who loves you for who you are all that stuff!
:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2008): Dump him. Dump him hard. He shouldn't base your relationship on looks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): My dear young woman, all of the folks that have responded here, have hit the nail on the head. A real relationship would find him "putting your needs before his own". For a lover to tell you such a hurtfull things, says only one thing about him/her. They do NOT really care for you!
If you really want to have bigger boobs, then that is possible http://www.flat2fab.com/ but I would recommend that you only do this for YOU.
My recomendation is that you politely leave this guy. You don't need to be negative as some suggest. Why sink to his level? If he wants to know more you can simply tell him that you are MORE than boobs, and that you require someone who truly cares for YOU. That by berating you in such a fashion he has only proved to you that he does not really care about you and is only interested in sex, and not you.
Sex is fun and part of a relationship, but it should be something you share because you love each other. Not the BASIS of a relationship. Unless of course that was all you wanted, but to hurt your feelings with it? Two words....
DUMP HIM!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008): He needs to accept you for who you are and what you look like. You cant be with someone who makes you feel unconfident and uncomfortable with your body. There are so many men out there who do not care about the size of your breasts. You just need to dump your man and find him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008): I know you don't want to hear this hun, but you asked for it...
Your boyfriend sucks!!!
He needs to get a life. If he has a problem with you, he has issues and deserves to be with a bloated pig...teach him what "fatten up" can mean!!!
I'm a girl, built pretty steady and people have called me fat, but my boyfriend doesn't care. He says I'm the most beautiful thing on the planet and that's all that matters.
If you boyfriend doesn't think that... I think it's time to move on, hun,
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008): tell him u feel unappreciated by himAND happy with urself &ur body. tell him that models are thin waifish & that frankly he could be better in the looks dept. He's an idiot & doesn't deserve u. if u really like him be more diplomatic than my post BUT communicate w him. be strong.
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reader, EvieA +, writes (24 October 2008):
 LEAVE HIM NOW
if he loved you he would love you for who you are not what you look like!
im telling you now, leave him
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (24 October 2008):
 You need to leave this guy. This is step one of cheating on you probably. First make you feel bad about yourself, and then when he cheats on you you end up feeling like well, I can't blame him, after all, I am so ugly. Plzzzz. Sounds like a shallow asshole to me.
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reader, Dr Vendetta  +, writes (24 October 2008):
 You know. usually we get " my wifes a bloated hog beast and needs to put the donut down"... not the other way around.Boobs... you know as a guy i love all boobs. ( expect man boobs ) i often can't see a good reason why we all love boobies. they're just fattie deposits covered by skin. not much different from my stomach. anyhow... why the hell are you staying with this guy?now if you're worried about being single and not finding anyone.. well, you're in a relationship right now.. so yes, yes you will find soemone.. hopefully not someone like this current guy.but seriously.. why are you seeing with? what do you see in him and please don't give me that crap of " oh but i love him"... i love bras and silk panties but not in that way where i wanna become close with them.theres better people out there sweety and he ain't one of them.and look on the bright side. Yes you can fatten up and even have a boob job to some extremes however remember that he will always have a small dick.
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reader, Arlo +, writes (24 October 2008):
 I totally agree with everyone else. You are who you are. If your boyfriend cannot accept you for the way you are and is criticising your appearance, then he doesn't deserve to be with you.
This does smack of an underlying issue and the fact that you have been together for 3 years and all of a sudden your weight and chest size is important would ring alarm bells with me. After all, I suspect that your weight and size haven't altered too much in the 3 years you have been together. Why now is it an issue???? He was attracted to you back then at the start as you are now.
I really strongly feel that it's not your weight and size that is the real issue here.
If you are happy with the way you look and are content, then so should he be. If you want to gain weight, then it should be something that you naturally want to do, and not just because your boyfriend has told you to do so!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (24 October 2008):
Any man who tells you to change the shape of your body to please him and says hurtful things does not deserve a girlfriend.
If he does not like you the way you are then he does not like YOU.
Leave him. Are you going to risk your health and get fat for him, only for him to tell you that you have fat in the wrong places? or that he now wants you to save up and buy some big boobs for him?
He does not love you or care about your well being.
NEVER stay with a man like this - you deserve so much more.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, for_a_reason +, writes (24 October 2008):
 If he really loves you then he should accept you for who you are - what has changed in 3 years? Your body size was the same when you first got together, so why is he being this way now?
If you're naturally skinny, then purposely putting on weight just for him to rescue your relationship would not only be really silly, but really unhealthy. To ask that of you is very selfish.
Everyone's body is different - yours just happens to be naturally thin, a body that a hell of a lot of girls would envy, and that a hefty amount of guys would go crazy for. Think of Keira Knightley - not a single lump of fat on those bones, it's just the way she's built - and she's gorgeous.
Tell your boyfriend that he's being completely inappropriate and should love you no matter what size you are. What if you told him that you suddenly found a bit of meat on a man sexy and that you wanted him to gain a hundred pounds - would he do it? Probably not.
Good luck!
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reader, Boredatwork +, writes (24 October 2008):
 Are you a healthy weight for you Height? and were you the size you are now when you meet him?
He shouldnt critisize the way you look, and there is nothing wrong with being skinny if its how you are naturally (ie not anorexic etc...) and even if you were he should support/help you and not critisize you.
You need to tell him that the things he says hurt you, and that if you dont look like his 'dream girl' he has no right to try and change you... Would he like it if you started critisizing him "your Penis is too small, grow it or i dont want to continue with the relationship" Its just not right!
You shouldnt be puttin on weight for him, or anyone (unless as i staited before you have any eating disorders).
Put him in his place!
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