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writes: My boyfriend does not make me feel beautiful at all. So get this, I'm 5'4, thin, busty, olive skin and I have long black hair. Girls and guys tell me all the time that I'm beautiful and hot. I used to feel so secure but now I feel ugly all the time. My boyfriend never attempts to make me feel good about myself. I will get my hair done and he says he doesn't like it. I will put on makeup (i like dark cat eyes) and and a new outfit and he will say that my face looks like a clown (even tho its not alot of makeup) and that I belong on the corner. It doesn't matter what the hell I do I just can't seem to get his freaking attention!Anyways, we will be watching tv and he will be the first to point out that someone is hot. For eample: "Wow shes pretty, damn shes hot, i think she's sexy, shes smokin, that's my girlfriend, I would marry her if she wasn't already married". You get the hint. It used to not bother me but now it does. I told him that it's making me feel ugly cause he never tells me that I"m pretty and he's always critisizing my looks and bragging about how everyone else is so hot and perfect and I'm this clown that belongs on the corner.It has come to the point to where I don't even want to be with him anymore. What's your opinion? Reply to this Question
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reader, emochick27  +, writes (25 February 2011):
 He probably says that stuff because he's unhappy with who he is and in return puts you down. Well if you really care about him I would sit down and talk to him about your feelings and see if he makes any effort to change. If not then maybe you should move on and then you can meet a guy who appreciates you for who you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2011): Its not his job to feed your ego and insecurity. you cannot make him responsible for your constant need of admiration.
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reader, dietcoke.1  +, writes (25 February 2011):
Heyy No offense but He sounds awful, i cant believe hes doing this to you ! especially when you could easily be getting attention from other people who will make you feel
appreciated. Why dont you bring it up with him and see what he says, maybe he just doesnt realise hes doing this to you :/ if hes not sorry and/or carrys on being like this finish him hes not worth your time if hes going to knock your confidence !
Good luck hope all goes well
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reader, star30  +, writes (25 February 2011):
This could be his way of trying to keep you???? As sick as it may sound, there are horrible people out there that try and down their partners right to the point of chopping or obliterating their partners self-esteem. Towards the end you're left with next to no confidence and then he has you right where he wants you...totally reliant and dependent on him. If you can help it, Don't let it get to that point because believe you me. Being in a relationship like that and if thats all he has to say about you after a while you start to believe it. Then you start doubting yourself etc...either try and get him to hear and understand how this is making you feel. Failing that- Listen to yourself, it really sounds like you know how this current situation is making you feel and what you want for yourself or Are you ready to let yourself live with constant put downs and hurt?
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reader, SweetSmoochy +, writes (25 February 2011):
 Break up with him. He sounds like a jack ass, and he may possibly be trying to get you to break up with him because he doesn't have the cajones to do it himself. Don't change your style or who you are for any one. Find someone who likes that person. Maybe one of the people around you telling you that you're beautiful? :)
One last thing, outer beauty is fun but inner beauty is better. I'm guessing you already knew that.
To sum up, dump the douchebag and stay true to yourself
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reader, SweetSmoochy +, writes (25 February 2011):
Break up with him. He sounds like a jack ass, and he may possibly be trying to get you to break up with him because he doesn't have the cajones to do it himself. Don't change your style or who you are for any one. Find someone who likes that person. Maybe one of the people around you telling you that you're beautiful? :)
One last thing, outer beauty is fun but inner beauty is better. I'm guessing you already knew that.
To sum up, dump the douchebag and stay true to yourself
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