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writes:So,I did some bad things. i been dating my boyfriend for over a year now ..well for a few months i was seeing another guy.what i mean by that is that i would hang out with him. without my bf knowing. and just talk.i didnt think i was cheating because we would not mess around or anything. just an ocassional hug here and there. i knew he started catching feelings because he started making comments. but he knew i had a bf and i knew he had a gf. I understand i should hav not gotten my self in that situation of being alone in the first place. but i did for a while.no phone calls or anything else. just spent time after work...so four months ago, he kissed me. just a quick peck. and i let it happen but pulled by right after,and didnt let it get any further than that. After that i did no longer hang out with him anymore. still talked and all but told him i felt really bad about it. He convinced me i cheated and i felt horrible so i told my bf. But i only told him that this coworker pecked me. (that i didnt do it back)and that was all..but i kno inside that is not the whole truthnot closebecause i led this guy onand pecked him alsoand it was not at the place i told my bf it happened.im terrified just thinking that my bf might find out the whole truthbcuz as it is he went crazy broke up with me and everything changed, now that iim trying to gain his trust back, i will NEVER say the truthbut i work with his guyand am really scared they bump into each other and exchange words because my bf thinks it was jst that guys faultnow my relationship is so diff because my bf doesnt trust me and if he knew the whole truth he would hate mei can honestly say that after that peck kiss i realized i did not feel absolutely anything for this other guy.so i dnt really think i cheated by that but seeing him all those other nights and lying to my bf about it was very wrong.but now what do i do??switch jobs?tell that guy to not say anything?what do i do with my guilt?please help
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reader, luzy +, writes (23 February 2010):
luzy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes your right. i need to stopthinking about it soo much. and im trying my best to be the best gf i can b now. bcuz i really love my bf and wud never want to jepordize our relationship again
But im just so scared of the past bcuz u kno how they say the truth always comes out. is that true?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 February 2010):
In a way, you did cheat. This was more of an emotional thing than it was physical. but stop spending so much time dwelling on it, because your boyfriend will soon pick up that something is wrong. And you are right, if your boyfriend found out he wouldn't be best pleased at all. Don't speak with this other guy, just avoid him as much as you can. If it does come out, then it will come out. But I'm sure it won't since he has a girlfriend and stands to lose just as much. Accept what has happened has happened and throw yourself into your relationship with your boyfriend.
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