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writes:I just split with my boyfriend tonight well he finished me. I’m 17 and have been going out with him since I was 14. He is a yr older than me and has been in love before but I haven’t. We lost our virginities together and I lost everything to him.It has always been an on/off relationship but I always seem to end up the hurt one. He very controlling,vcalls me nasty names a lot, and he turns his phone off and ignores me.Last week I had an abortion. I was 4vmonths pregnant and we had to travel hour and half to Liverpool for the termination. He was so supportive but after it was done we didn’t seem as close. The day after he dropped me off home - bearing in mind no one else knew about the abortion and I was in a state. He then ignored me, was very nasty and had his mum to tell me stop ringing for 5 days. Then he saw me Tuesday we kissed and lead to more... then we coudn’t even say bye to each other kept huggin and kissin and I felt all loved up again. Then he texted me sayin good night twice and I love you. Then day after he completely ignored me. When I called him about 11pm a girl answered his phone. He lied to me and said it was his brothers girlfriend but it wasn’t. He has ignored me ever since and tonight told me he not in love with me anymore and wants nothing to do with me. I m so hurt I feel so alone and upset especially after having my abortion.He’s moving to Australia end of September. Why has he been like this? I really need some one to give me advice and tell me what I should do. I feel torn apart
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2007): Well then he is a person who does not deserve you. I know how it feels to be ignored and called those names, however I do not know what else you are going through- I have not been through it. I am 19 and have been with my boyfriend for the past three years and he and I recently "took a break" or broke up so to speak. He just said he stopped trying about a year ago and it showed. He said I didn't make him happy and every time we're together we always fight about something and he doesn't want to deal with the drama anymore. I am very sorry for your situation and I hope the best for you.
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reader, DanBing +, writes (5 August 2007):
 No respect for you by the sounds of it!
Forget about this guy and move on because he will continue to hurt you, however hard it is it will be better in the long run.
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (5 August 2007):
 All I can really say is; there is an awful lot going on for you both right now.
For you, due to the abortion (I'm sorry). Also, it doesn't help that he ignores you. It isn't nice to be ignored, and I know what that's like. And for him; there's the abortion again, and also, there's the moving to Australia part that you mentioned. He's probably been thinking about you, and how things will be very hard and very different after he moves away. I think he thinks that there is just no way you two will be able to get through things, and he's trying to let you go and isn't find it easy.
I can only suggest that you give things time. Time heals all as they say. And hopefully, things will settle down a bit with time. As much as it's hard, I think you need to give him space. Let him find out if this is really what he wants over the next couple of weeks.
If you chose to follow my advice, may I also suggest that you try to NOT expect to hear anything. I.e. Don't sit by the telephone all day, hoping and praying that "today will be the day" so to speak. Carry on with things. Go out with friends. Do things you enjoy. Enjoy life! And then, if he does contact you, his message/phonecall should be an indication of how he see's things, and give you some understanding. Be wary though, this call may not come.
So, get out and enjoy what you have. Don't sit about waiting for him to contact you, hard as it is.
I hope I helped in some way. Given your situation it was the least I could do.
Best of luck! x
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