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writes:I really like this boy, but there is a problem. He is 4 years older then me. Is 4 years age difference too long? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007): if i was you i would go for it i did if this lad likes you and you like him who cares about his age at the end of the day though dont be so nieve and dont rush into everything if its not right for you you will learn your lesson but there is no harm in trying
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reader, lotus101 +, writes (6 August 2007):
lotus101 is verified as being by the original poster of the question He's really nice and freindly and stuff. He just thinks I like him as a freind. But I have a crush on him. He's just so darn stink'n cute
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reader, kenny  +, writes (5 August 2007):
 In normal circumstances i would say 4 years is nothing atal, like say you were 18 and he was 22. However being as young as you are 4 years is alot. At most you are 12, and he is 16, he is at completely different level in his life to you. I would maybe just try to be his friend, and knows maybe in 4 or 5 years something could happen.
Good luck x
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reader, blueberry  +, writes (5 August 2007):
 I dated a guy that was 3 years older than me. I was 17, he was 20. when youre older it is less of a problem bc u have gone past most hurdles in life and things start to even out, but even at that age, and i see u are a lot younger...it is too much of a gap. I think that if a man or woman wants a person 3/4 years their junior and at your growing ages that is a huge differance in maturity...than that means you should wonder what is wrong with that person for being interested in someone not as mature as them. Not that you arent mature, but at your age the gap is huge and it shows that in some cases the older person may bot be capable of dating someone his age so then dates the younger ones. This could mean there may be problems in the relationship. I see it as a red flag. But when you are over 20 and there is an age gap usually things are settled out enough to date any age.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (5 August 2007):
 Im afraid yes it is too much considering your 10-12 so hes 14-16. Your still a child and hes a teen becoming a man.
I see you like him and you havent said how hes feels so i ant say what his intentions may be.
But i would just be his friend even though it may pain you.
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reader, GreenTea +, writes (5 August 2007):
100% agree with rhythm. He is going to take advantage of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2007): At your age yes, it is not really normal for a 14 or 16 year old to be interested in a child of 10-12....I would be very careful as this boy is trying to take advantage of the fact that you are very young and inexperienced, unless he is truly just trying to be a big brother or friend to you and you are mistaking this for something else, could that be it? I remember really admiring older kids when I was your age, and having crushes....
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