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writes:My boyfriend blamed me when things went wrong for him and wouldn't consider that there were MANY factors well beyond his (or anyone's) control! Is it traditional for men to blame women, and if so is it an indication that he actaully feels very close to me? I try so hard to be understanding and supportive, but can't read his mind; he is so full of contradictions. He is right in that I don't always know how best to be helpful, but I am 200% THERE for him!!! He says he's not happy with his (job) situation or with how i am, etc. Reply to this Question
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (16 May 2008):
 And no not all men are like that. Unhappy ones are.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (16 May 2008):
Sometimes in relationships we expect our partners to make us happy, it doesn't work like that. We have to be happy with our own lives to be happy in the relationship. He is expecting YOU to make everything right and happy but it isn't your job to do that, you can't make him happy with his job or make his life perfect. All you can do is be there for him which you say that you are. I don't think it is an indicator of him caring more for you at all. He sounds like he is depressed and takes it out on you. Maybe he should see a therapist or counselor? Just you will not be able to make him happy though. Good luck.
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reader, redsox07 +, writes (16 May 2008):
Him blaming you for everything is not him being close to you. It is him be immature and unwilling to own up to his own choices.
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