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writes: Can't stop crying... I'm feeling so low today. I keep thinking about my ex and his girlfriend. I'm thinking about how happy they are, I'm seeing them in bed. They've just come back from holiday, so I'm seeing them holding hands. Kissing, lying together.I know I'm torturing myself. I'm trying to get over him, I really, really am. I don't want him back, he belongs to someone else. He's in love with someone else. He's making plans with someone else. He's gonna marry someone else.That's the truth, that's how it's gonna be....
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2009): I myself was seeing a guy for a year and a half and was so in love. he told me he was in love with me tooand we planned out a life together. Then suddenly he txts me saying he's seeing someone else and that was the end. I was devistated. He was 49 and i was 40 , it doesnt get any easier with age i was so heart broken crying all the time couldnt think sraight i felt my world had ended without him in it. i kept picturing them together and happy. It has taken me 6 mths to get over him and still i have my moments of still really missing him and think i still have feelings for this man as there was no bad moments i can remember when i was with him it was all good. so i found it really hard to let go. Then just as i thought i was getting better i found out he got engaged at the weekend. I wa so angry as to how he could just move on that quickly as it had only been 6 months. I felt i had gone back to the same heartbreak from the start. I also found out he had been working with her and it had been going on for some time wich made me feel sick. but that gave me the thing i was looking for something to hate him for and i have learnt to use that when i have a bad time and feel sad at my loss. I now know he wasnt the man i thought he was he was a lying cheating scumbag who played to woman. Im glad i dont have him in my life nowas i wouldnt want someone like that sharing my life . i look at it as her problem now . as i also found out after we had split that when he was married he had 5 affairs and his first wife left him. He had also slept with his brothers wife and his wives sister. So the poor girl he is with now wont stand a chance with a man like that. Its just a matter of time. also i found typing into the pc what your thinking when you are feeling down eg (cant get over my ex or he's with someone else ). and you can read about people who are dealing with the same pain .. It really helps lift those weak moments you have after a breakup.
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reader, Anonny  +, writes (31 March 2009):
I know this is from last year - but I would like to say that I am 39 too - and heartbroken from a man who wants his ex! - I think the late 30s is a bad time to have your heart broken!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks anonymous, thanks duskyrowe. It was just a moment of weakness. I couldn't hold onto the sadness much longer. It really helps writing it down and your responses are the icing on the cake.
Duskyrowe, I'm 39 and it was 18 years. I wanted kids, he promised kids and now he's left and she's gonna get the kids.... well the kids and him.. Thing is I think he's the best part.
Anyway.. as I said it was just a little moment of weakness. Thanks for being there.
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (16 May 2008):
 Oh Sweetie I know exactly how you feel. I dated a guy last year for a few months, then he dumped me saying he wasn't ready for a relationship. Three months later the rat found himself a younger model of 28 (I'm 40) and I had exactly the same visions as you too.
Today I am dating a lovely guy of 34 and we have been seeing each other for 8 months. Now the other guy is just a distant memory and my man is a much better lover than him too lol.
Move on hun and find yourself a real man. Dusky xxxx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): He wasn't for you so it's better to find out sooner than later.
Cry your tears as that will help, but try to find something else to focus on, keep in company and try not to talk about him. Time is a great healer.
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