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writes:My bf and i have herpes. We found out a year ago and im still with him. I think i am with him cause im afraid someone else wont want me. He's getting mean. I wanna be with sumone else sum1 older but i dont kno if he likes me since we only e mail eachother every few months. Hes a professional man and i dont kno how he feels. Im mobile so theres mistakes. mim4 c g gv
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reader, nicolexue +, writes (11 January 2008):
 NO, 1 in 4 poeple have herpes and you are not alone. Please try Stdromance.com and find friends, true love, trust me
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2007): Herpes is absolutely nothing to worry about it. My partner has it, he caught it from touching a cold sore on his mouth then passed it to his genitals by touching there. He was married for 24 years before we got together. Please believe me it will not affect you relationships in future. It has a ridiculous stigma attached to it. It is not Aids or HIV or anything terrible. It is no worse than having a tendency to get cold sores around your mouth when you might avoid kissing people. Therefor during an outbreak it is wise to use condoms or abstain. After the first attack you may never get another outbreak. You may only get one at times like when you have a cold and are a bit run down. It is only contagious when the blisters pop up, as with ones on your mouth. Some of the answers here reflect the stigma which is completely and utterly ridiculous. This is nothing, nothing, nothing to be worried about and it should not under any circumstance hold you back in life. When you find a good man you will know and he will understand this and love you.
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reader, penta +, writes (21 September 2007):
 Once again Frank is giving some good advice.
I knew someone who got herpes. She still found someone to love and they even had a child. Your life isn't over. Leave this guy.
Many of us are paralyzed; we prefer the hell we know to the possible unknown heaven. Don't let this happen to you. Move on. Work on being confident in who you are (confidence is sexy).
Good luck.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (21 September 2007):
 You can still find love is you have herpes, but it is going to be more difficult.
If you want to end things with the BF, then end them, not becuase you have someone else, but becuase the relationship is over.
You are too afraid to be alone without a partner, and THAT is going to cause you to make bigger mistakes in life.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2007): What does this mean? Im mobile so theres mistakes. mim4 c g gv???
Well, it is a turn off but as long as the guy uses a condom he should be safe, right? Just meet someone, get to know him then open up & tell him. If a guy I liked & was dating told me he had herpes, I would make him go to the clinic & get tested for everything just for my own peace of mind. You can get on some preventative outbreak medication like Valtrex so that you don't get outbreaks too. If you don't even want to tell a guy, that's always an option, as long as you do not have unprotected sex & don't have sex during an outbreak.
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