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writes:hi all my boyfriend and i started dating in june this year and been together since so thats 4 months into the relationship anyway when we go out he tends to love feeling me and kissing me , i dont have a problem with the kissing in public but i get shy with the feeling me up in public , can anyone help with what to say to him without hurting his feelings , and why does he do this
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (21 September 2007):
 Just tell him honestly, calmly and directly when you are alone. He is your bf...if you can not even have an honest talk about something like this, you surely will not be able to handle more serious issues.
As to why he does it?: Maybe he is trying to send a message that you are "taken", so that other guys watching do not try to pick you up?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): Feeling you up in public is kind of weird. I mean I have had sex in crazy spots. And me and my bf exchange that glance where we want to do it with eachother and we don't care where we are, we just need to find a place to have sex.
But without that mutual understanding, I think it is odd and kind of crossing a personal boundary of yours that he thinks it is ok to just feel you up in public without even knowing how you feel about it. Like I said unless you are both in agreement (and even then you try to be discreet about it). He sounds controlling. Like he thinks he owns you or something. I think it is real weird.
But in any case, stand up for yourself. Cause if you let him get away with something that makes you feel uncomfortable he is going to think it is ok and keep doing it. So next time, you don't have to argue about it or make it into some serious ordeal. Just keep it light and casual. And next time he does it be like "baby we are in public. Stop it" And if he still doesn't get the hint, then by all means get mad at him and tell him that he made you feel so uncomfortable and you are mad at him. And then don't talk to him for a few days. That way he will realise how upset you are by it, and the days without you will make him think about what he's done and realise that he was wrong and that he is really upsetting you. And then I bet he will never do it again.
You should never feel like you have to sacrifice your own comfort level in a relationship for anybody. On the contrary, guys want to make you happy. So the more you speak up and telling him what you like and don't like, as long as he loves you, he is going to acknowledge it and respect it and do everything he can to keep you happy. When a guy loves you, that is all they want to do. So do not be afraid to speak up.
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (20 September 2007):
 men like to "mark their territory" and that means you, so under the watchful eye of everyone he likes to show you off. its not a bad thing, but their are limits. just say to him that you like being eith him and everyone knowing you're an item but some things are better left for behind closed doors. so it's more personal between the two of you. i'm sure he'll understand especially if you say it makes you feel uncomfortable, but only because you prefer to keep intimate touching, intimate.
good luck.
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