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writes:okay so me an my boyfriend had sex without a condom cuz we didnt have 1 like a week and a half ago. he pulled out wenever he was ganna cum and ive had my period already but cud i still b pregnant? because hes ben freakin out cuz ppl have made it seem like im pregnant or i cud b so is there a chance that i cud b?
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reader, ffogalilly +, writes (12 October 2009):
Sorry about that, but I still think you're a bit young to be having sex, just take a test and see. Make sure to get on Birth Control.
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reader, OmShantih  +, writes (12 October 2009):
 13and26forever - So relieved he isn't what we all thought, I hope you got the advice you wanted :) And thank you for your feedback, happy to help!
Other Aunts, Particularly Rythmandblues2 - My sincere apologies, It was very inappropriate of me to comment on your advice, oldersister is right I should have PM'd you! I also apologise for not taking into account american laws etc.
I will take what you have said on board, Thank you for your constructive critisism!
Love and Light
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reader, 13and26forever +, writes (11 October 2009):
13and26forever is verified as being by the original poster of the question wut r u talkin about? i didnt answer your ? about y my names 13and26forever its that because i didnt wanna put Michaela and Cody forever so i just put my softball and his football #. and yeah her advice bout the pregnacy test is good but other then that. nothin!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2009): Nope I think Oldersister has the advice you need on here, sorry you didn't answer my question about why your name was 13 and 26 forever because we get a lot of these types of situations on here.....so did not want to let one go by un warned.
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reader, 13and26forever +, writes (11 October 2009):
13and26forever is verified as being by the original poster of the questionnoooooo nooo im 13 yeah but thats my softball number and 26 is his football number. dang srry i really dont want yall thinkin hes sum child malestor or somethin. he is turnin 15 tuesday. so yeah. but OmShantih thank u! u gave tha best advice than the rest!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2009): Dear Aunt OmShantih
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Here is your response to the Op with all your buts taken out of your response. If you work with abused girls, then perhaps you need to stop sugarcoating the truth and stop putting your but all over the place. When you make a sentence and you use the word but in it, it means that you can ignore what ever you said before you said but. How the hell are you going to help young women contradicting yourself and lying.
Further maybe you should stick to advising 13 year olds from the UK, because you don't know the laws in the US. A 13 year old having sex in any of our 50 states is having sex illegally and any teenage boy over 15 and any man above that age is guilty of stuatory rape. There is no gray area here, the girl had sex and may be pregnant and more than likely it was a 26 year old who did it.
What 26 year old would be attracted to a 13 year old baby unless he has serious psychological problems, was a sexual predator, a pedophile, surely your experience in sexual abuse would have taught you that much regardless of your "personal experience" with it.
This is rape of a minor in my country.
"What he is doing is illegal and it is very serious I do advise you to seek some advice from an adult you trust,
Now with regards to your boyfriend, I must admit this does ring alarm bells! I know its sometimes cool to have an older boyfriend, but this age difference really is wrong sweetheart. I know he may tell you, your his world and he loves you but this is probably not true, even tho you will believe him, its because your young and dont yet have the life experience to be able to judge this situation from an adults perspective.
This all sounds very patronising, but I really would advise you talk to an adult you trust about this relationship, someone who will take the time to listen and help you.
especially if you ever feel uncomfortable or pressured into doing something you dont want too.
However, Peadophiles are very clever and very manuipulative people, who prey on children/young teens, please keep your wits about you and if you notice something that doesnt seem quite right to you then tell an adult that can help you. This relationship does strongly concern me "
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reader, OmShantih +, writes (10 October 2009):
Firstly, It is not Rape!
And way to go to scare the hell into the poor girl rythmandblues2!
ok sweetheart, yes there is still a chance that you could be pregnant, the best thing to do is to do a test and see. as some of the comments have already stated that if even if he pulls out there is still a chance you could be pregnant, and although having your period would suggest your not pregnant, you really should do a test to be on the safe side.
Now with regards to your boyfriend, I must admit this does ring alarm bells! I know its sometimes cool to have an older boyfriend, but this age difference really is wrong sweetheart. I know he may tell you, your his world and he loves you but this is probably not true, even tho you will believe him, its because your young and dont yet have the life experience to be able to judge this situation from an adults perspective.
This all sounds very patronising, but I really would advise you talk to an adult you trust about this relationship, someone who will take the time to listen and help you.
What he is doing is illegal and it is very serious but I do understand that people cant help who they fall inlove with, however I do advise you to seek some advice from an adult you trust, especially if you ever feel uncomfortable or pressured into doing something you dont want too.
I'm not saying he is, because I believe in innocent until proven guilty. However, Peadophiles are very clever and very manuipulative people, who prey on children/young teens, please keep your wits about you and if you notice something that doesnt seem quite right to you then tell an adult that can help you. This relationship does strongly concern me but I do understand. I have been through something similar myself, and I work with sexually abused girls and deal with these situations on a daily basis.
Feel free to message me if you would like to talk privately.
Good luck sweetheart, all the best!
Love and Light.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (10 October 2009):
 It's obvious you're not mature enough to handle the complications that come with having sex. Rather than sleeping with what I'm guessing is a 26 year old man, you should be educating yourself about sex before actually having it. Ignorance is definitely not bliss. If you're not careful you'll find that out the hard way.
To answer your question, if you've already gotten your period after having sex, you're not pregnant. That doesn't mean you can't still get pregnant, though.
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reader, ffogalilly +, writes (10 October 2009):
You're too young to be having sex. And if your partner is 26 he should be in jail, where in the hell are your parents.
Just take a test and see.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (10 October 2009):
Don't cows chew cud?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2009): Ok I am going to wager a guess, knowing how little girls write the names of their beloveds on their notebooks that 13 and 26 forever means one thing.
You just had sex with a 26 year old.
You are in danger. It is illegal for any adult or actually teenager to have sex with a 13 year old girl. It is rape.
What adult men do that no better is to "groom" the child by building a trusting relationship with the child or even the child's family in order to sexually abuse the child later. This is because children who trust are less likely to tell, and a family of the child who trusts this person are less likely to believe any allegations from outsiders.
This 26 year old is not psychologically healthy and he can harm you. He is a pedophile and is a sex offender and if prosecuted will do jail time and have his name put on a national and state sex offenders list for life.
If this is what is happening to you, this is not love, this man is very very sick and you need to run, not walk and tell your parents about this or a trusted adult and go from there. They will support you in getting this man away from you.
If you are 13 you are having sex illegally. You are a child. These laws are put in place to protect children like you from the harm of adults like him who are manipulative and conning and take advantage of children in the worst way.
Of course he is freaking out you might be pregnant. If you are, he is caught and the proverbial doo doo is going to hit the fan. He's in trouble and he knows it.
Get away from him he is a horrible person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2009): Why is your name 13 and 26 forever? Please tell me the person you just had sex with is not 26, but really tell me the truth.
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reader, Kirstyteenauntireland  +, writes (10 October 2009):
 There is a chance but My advice would be to get a pregnancy test and use condom in future . Even if he Pulls it out before he ejaculates there is still a chance you could get pregnant.
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