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writes:ok my boyfriend has a problem he's constantly physical with me. actually he hasn't been recently, but in the past he's severely injured me. well injured me enough to where even weeks and weeks had passed i still had marks and my skin where i've had bruises from him before. mainly on my left hip is still really sensitive even though this incident happened in april. this wasn't the only time. it was the first and the worst. other times it's just hitting or flinging or grabbing stuff like that. i actually block it out so i don't think about it. but if i try i can remember parts and sometimes i'll dream about it and remember. and i was wondering if it's still okay to be upset about this. i know that sounds silly, but it could've been way worse right? sometimes i'll think about parts that i can remember easily and i'll just get so angry that i feel like i could explode. is that unhealthy? do i have like a mental problem because of this? why is my skin still sensitive after all this time? how do i get myself to feel better? help please i just don't know what to do... Reply to this Question
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reader, Fairy_Lu  +, writes (4 October 2007):
 Im going to say this in the nicest way possible and no im not overeacting GET THE HELL OUT! Leave him and now before it gets worse you may think he loves you but he is controlling you it makes him feel better to be able to hurt you it makes him feel like a big strong tough guy BUT HE ISNT!He is weak and pathetic and a coward a woman beating coward. You need to be brave and strong and leave him as soon as possible it may seem like it wont last forever but facts speak for themselves people die from domestic violence
You need to pack your bags and leave and run never look back never give him a secound thought find someone who will treat you like the princess you are.
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reader, little miss helpful +, writes (4 October 2007):
 ok there is nothing wrong with you mentally or physically. your skin is still senstive because he has hurt you that bad. have you been and got you hip checked out? he could have done more damage then you think so please just get checked over!
he is the one that has something wrong mentally under no circumstances should a man ever lie a finger on a women at all.
i think what you should do is get out of that relationship and FAST i no you wil love him etc but he cant love you if he is doing that to you.
it may start as a few punches etc but like you said it could have been far worse and trust me it will if he thinks he can get away with it.
take care and just be carefull.
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reader, Emma99  +, writes (4 October 2007):
You don't have a mental problem, sweetie. You are just full of hope, and wanting to believe the best of people - that's a good thing. But get out of this relationship. Now. You know you have to. You will never really feel better till you do, and the feeling better might take a while. I know. I've been there. Please look after yourself, and find another way.
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