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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I dont know whether to stay with my boyfriend or not. Sometimes, when he gets in a mood, and we have been out in a bar, he has left me on my own at the bar. It's happened a couple of times. The first time it happened, he left but then came back a short while after but last time it happened, he didn't come back at all, and when i rang him, he wouldnt tell me where he was. eventually, a couple of hours later, we spoke on the phone again and met in another bar. His friends were in the bar so at least i could talk to them, but i was supposed to be out with him. Also, he doesnt always ring me when he says he will, and doesnt always respond to my texts. What do you think i should do ?.
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reader, LW +, writes (4 May 2011):
How long have you been together, and do you love each other?
Some men cannot face confrontation, so if you were both arguing or something he would flee. Do you think this is the case with him??
Anyways, it is not your place to try and figure out what his issues are- but it is his responsibility if he want's to keep you in his life, to ensure you feel good about your relationship together.
Sit him down asap, even if it happened a while ago, and explain to him what you expect from him as a partner.
Give him the opportunity to explain to you why it is he felt he should leave you.
Whatever reason he gives, if any, is NO justification for those actions, after all as your man he is meant to protect you.
Let him know that ever if it were to happen again, that would have to be it between you's, because you hold more respect for yourself than that.
-If he agrees to treat you better, and you go out and he "reoffends", you know his actions are only actions of attempted control of you. He is selfish. too selfish.
So in that case, I would do as the above ladies have suggested, and leave him.
Good luck though, don't let this guy get you down, and do not settle for a life you are not happy with :)
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reader, Zandra +, writes (4 May 2011):
 As a moody person myself I can sympathise with him, sometimes removing yourself from a situation is the only way to deal with your emotions. Have you let him know that this upsets you? Do you know his reasons for doing this? Communication and honesty is key to getting to the bottom of this.
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reader, MamaBear  +, writes (4 May 2011):
Time for you to walk away from this guy. He sounds inconsiderate, moody, and non-caring! Do you need this? If so, it does not sound like much fun!
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (4 May 2011):
 Text message time
Dear John: Thank you for leaving me in the bar last night. I met the most amazing MAN. We are going out again tonight. Again can't thank you enough, if it wasn't for you, I would have never had met him. OX (just one, saving the rest for my new guy.
PS enjoy your life, I know I will!
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