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anonymous
writes:Hi. I haven't had sex for a year now, as of this week. It's quite a depressing anniversary, and one that I have tried to keep off my mind, but haven't been able to. I really feel like I need sex again now, for the good of my manhood. I have made out with a number of girls since I last had sex, but it just isn't satisfying me enough. My body is hungry for sex! I don't want to sound like I'm obsessed. I hope you will understand that going so long without it has hurt my pride somewhat.I'm not in the position where I can just bring any girl home even if the opportunity arose, because I live with my family. I'm moving from them in September, but that doesn't help me right now!Please, there must be some of you who have gone through this? Any advice to take away the sting, and maybe even take me a step closer to finally having something physical again soon?? Thanks!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think starting up a relationship wouldn't be wise considering I'm looking to move away in September. I don't want to hurt anyone, and I'm not sure I really want to get tied down with a girlfriend whenever I have plans in the summer (going to a seaside town with lots of partying, and a chance I might get lucky), and also, when I go to university I'm going to meet lots of new and interesting people.
I wish it didn't have to be the way it is, but I really think one-off sex is becoming my best option. If I could have a short-term relationship where nobody would get hurt, I would do that. I'm just not sure it's possible.
Thanks for the advice, and if you have any more to add, please do.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (29 May 2008):
 Masturbate frequently. I'm guessing you're already doing that, but that's unfortunately about all you can do.
Try to find a steady girlfriend that you really like and connect with. This has two major benefits: lots of regular sex, and with a good relationship, the sex is good too. If you want to find a good girlfriend and have a good relationship the best way to go about it is to work on improving yourself (physically and mentally), plus try to do plenty of social activities where you'll meet girls. The more you meet, the more the chance of meeting the right one.
Good luck. I think almost every guy has 'been there' at some time or other in their life. It sucks, but then there are much worse things in life, trust me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): you need to learn how to control yourself. Please don't just use some random girl to satisfy yourself. You know what would be better and more satisfing being in a real relationship.
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reader, Devil Spawn  +, writes (29 May 2008):
 if it bothers you that much my man go and pay for it.
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reader, Lily Moll  +, writes (29 May 2008):
I'm in a similar situation (8 months). I'm still looking for a solution, but I've come to realize that lowering one's standards helps. I refuse to go that route, so I'm probably screwed (as in NOT getting screwed, ha). However, there is no need to bring anyone "home." Sex can happen anywhere.. in cars, at parties, in bathrooms.. Clubs and pubs are great places to meet people for this kind of sex. It might not be the most satisfying sex, but it will still be sex, and will assure you that you're capable of getting some if you want it. Think of it as a snack to tide yourself over until you can get a real meal.I'm giving this advice based on the information you've given, which indicate that you're looking for sex only. If you're looking for fulfilling sex, or a relationship with steady sex, that's entirely different.
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